We’ve all heard of the mystical backdoor fun in whispered tones during our youth. What has once been considered taboo is now one of the most practised and celebrated sexual activities! And while you may still be skeptical about delving into Anal Play – which is understandable – there are many internet guides out there to help you get over those inhibitions…including this one.
What is Anal Play?
Anal Play is the act of pleasuring yourself or your partner/s’ anus or rectum by inserting a finger, a toy, and even your tongue. It can also refer to the act of rimming or rubbing at the anal opening.
Why should you try it?
The anus or rectum isn’t just for dispelling your bowels. It can be a pleasure point, too! There are literally thousands of nerve endings around the anus and in the rectum that you haven’t quite yet explored. Although it’s a little different from a vagina that can secrete its own lubrication, it doesn’t lessen the backdoor fun you can perform.
What is the Prostate?
The Prostate is the male G-spot or fondly known as the P-Spot. It is a gland that helps produce seminal fluid and can be stimulated internally (in the rectum) or externally in the space between the penis and the scrotum.
Similarly, if you can stimulate the G-spot with strokes and massages, you can do it for the P-spot as well!
Of course, Anal Play isn’t exclusive to any gender. Everyone can enjoy it!
So, if you aren’t a penis-wielding sexual being or you are but want to be on the receiving end, there are several sex toys for your backdoor fun sessions:
Butt plugs are as common as vibrators. They’re small teardrop-shaped toys with a wide base that you stick up your bum and come in various materials and colors.
Now, why are butt plugs all the rage? For starters, they preliminarily stretch you out for bigger things. Hence, if you’re preparing for anal sex, this is a good foreplay tool for you and your partner. Not to mention, it’s designed to reach your Prostate for that added pressure point.
If you’re not so sure about a silicone toy plugging up your ass, you can try the smaller spheres of anal beads.
Anal beads is a sex toy with multiple consecutive spheres inserted in the anus to the rectum and removed either slowly or quickly for a pleasurable effect.
Vibrators and Other Toys
Although butt plugs and beads are the mainstream, you can still use vibrators (there are even butt plugs that are vibrators) and other toys however you see fit. See, Anal Play is just as versatile as regular Sex Play, and you can experiment to your heart’s content.
Tips to Follow
So, you’re thinking of trying Anal Play? Here are some of our Foxxy tips for you to follow!
Make sure that you have emptied your bowels before you proceed with your session. Many people prefer to douche, which is an effective way to minimize – if not eliminate – encountering any fecal matter during anal sex. It’s not that advisable as it may damage the rectal lining. Others would suggest washing the area around the anus with soap and water; this may be done in the shower. Or you could opt to wipe yourself thoroughly with wet wipes.
Whatever method you choose, the important thing is to be clean! Stay hygienic, everyone!
2. Use Protection
As most of you might be afraid to contract STDs or other bacterial infections, please refer to number one. Clean the area for stimulation to ensure that (1) you won’t make a mess and (2) it’s hygienic, come on, people. The next thing you should do is to use protection. Wear a condom on your ding-dong and/or the sex toys you will be using – especially if you’re planning to use them elsewhere, like the vagina or your mouth!
Do not double-dip in different entrances!
The anus isn’t as slick as a natural vagina; therefore, you must lubricate religiously!
Most would recommend a water-based lubricant, but for the Anal Play, it’ll be best to use a silicone-based one because it lasts longer! Also, don’t forget to check if your lubricant is compatible with your toys! Some toy materials don’t agree with silicone-based lubes, and it’d be best to check it out before you purchase anything.
4. Foreplay, duh!
If you’re one to skip on the foreplay with vaginal sex, you can’t practice the same thing with Anal Sex or Anal Play.
Foreplay is the prerequisite to Anal Sex. It’s preparation for a larger object, may it be a dildo or a penis, and your anus needs a little bit of training (and a lot of lube) to make sure things go smoothly.
Do not skip foreplay! I guarantee that Anal will be off the table forever if you do.
Don’t just stick it up without warning! Consent is vital in any sex act, and you shouldn’t be going about without it in the first place!
If you’re relatively new to Anal Play, it’s best to talk about it before you engage in anything. It’s not the same as conventional sex that you know what to do and where to put everything. Some people might not be comfortable with Anal as you are, and ground rules must be in place if it ever comes up.
Always, always, always ask for your partner’s consent.
Enjoy the Experience
Anal Play and Anal Sex is a fun and saucy sexual activity that anyone can enjoy. It doesn’t have to be a scary endeavor in the bedroom and certainly not taboo. It’s a natural thing to want to explore. So you shouldn’t be ashamed of having an inclination. Live out your butt fantasies!
Just remember the tips that we’ve discussed, and you’ll be good to go! But if you still want to read about backdoor fun or other kinks, head on to our blog!