BDSM Contract: A Guide to Sub Drop and Aftercare

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You want to have a spanking good time and spice things up in your sex life? We recommend BDSM. But before rushing into this lifestyle you have to know what you’re signing up for. That’s why BDSM contracts are important! There are things that you may come across that you have no clue about. And those are some of what we are handling today. We will answer the questions:

  • What are BDSM contract, negotiations?
  • What are BDSM Sub Drops and Subspace (But what Is Sub Drop?)

What Are BDSM Contracts And Negotiations

Before you commit to a business deal, don’t you draft up a contract and sign it to show that you agree to the terms set? It’s the concept when it comes to a BDSM comes to a BDSM contract. So to answer your question, this is a contract between a dominant and submissive that maps out boundaries and safety during the scene. We do know it sounds crazy to draft up a contract when it comes to sexual endeavors but it may help to reduce the awkwardness that comes with bringing some topics up to your partner.

Why Are BDSM Contract And Negotiations Important?

BDSM is all about consent and not abuse. So many people try to define kink by what it is rather than focusing on what it is not. BDSM can lead to both emotional and physical abuse if boundaries and rules are not set. A contract, written preferably, can help you amplify your voice on what is acceptable and what is not. Many people refuse to enter an agreement of this kind but for your sake, we would suggest you do.

Subspace

To understand your BDSM contract, you must first know what comes before it: subspace.

Subspace is a state of consciousness that a submissive might experience in the middle of a scene. When you’re in subspace, you may feel separated from your body and cannot share the full intensity of pain. Some submissives have described a sense of flying or floating as in an out-of-body experience. 

You may feel disoriented, your thoughts may be disorganized, and you may have trouble speaking.

Sub Drop

Sub drop is caused by the absence of the same hormones that provide the unique sensation of subspace. Because play has ended, and your body has ceased creating the chemicals that rendered you insensitive to pain and sensation during subspace, these symptoms appear suddenly. Your BDSM contract should mention if play abruptly ends for any reason, a sub drop might occur. All of the chemicals circulating in your brain to produce subspace calm down when a scene concludes.

Your body might come out of its elevated state of euphoria and flow, and you may feel very weary. Other symptoms may include the inability to regulate temperature, high or low blood pressure, unconsciousness, lethargy, nausea, pain, headaches, dizziness, weak muscles, and lack of focus. Sub drop may not occur at all times, just as you may not constantly be in subspace. It’s more likely to happen if a scene abruptly ends for any reason. However, aftercare can help alleviate these symptoms.

Aftercare

Any action that helps you reconnect after a scene and gently ease back into the “sober” world is included in this factor of safety in BDSM play. Sub drop can also be made less severe using aftercare.

Aftercare might include cuddling, as well as having some food and a drink. Some individuals give their partners energy drinks to recharge electrolytes. Your ideal sort of aftercare can be a warm blanket or your favorite movie. After a scene, focus on things that will help you relax your mind and body. Most people seem to think of aftercare as something that the top does for the submissive/bottom, but it may also benefit the top.

While much of the BDSM contract stated aftercare happens right after a session, that isn’t always the case. If your sub drop (or dom drop) requires you to revitalize first, aftercare may have to wait until after a nap. After a couple of days, checking-in may also disclose difficulties that aren’t immediately obvious after a scene finishes. This pause may also be necessary for individuals who require some alone time due to a top or sub drop, which might appear as a withdrawal that fades with time. Scenes can go smoothly yet still evoke strong emotions, which don’t necessarily manifest. After a hard session, taking your partner out for ice cream could be a nice kind of aftercare! Learn more on how to be a submissive here.

A Good BDSM Contract Addresses both Aftercare and Subspace

As you can see, partaking in a BDSM contract responsibly, particularly in the more intense forms, necessitates communication. However, discussing this may be challenging, but you can always learn how to talk about BDSM with your partner more effectively. If you’re interested in looking deeper into Dominant and Submissive lifestlye checkout our related posts!

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