Is Virtual Sex Even “Real Sex”? And Other Questions You Want Answered.

They say “absence makes the heart grow fonder.” I don’t think I ever truly understood or felt the phrase before as well as I do now.

Pretty soon, it’ll be about two years since they officially declared Covid-19 a full-fledged pandemic. I personally feel like so many things have changed since then about society as a whole. But also, specifically, in terms of how we ask for social interaction and how we view relationships.

Restrictions may be loosening, and now more people are going out. Movies and concerts. Restaurants and work trips. We’re all just trying to adjust to the so-called ‘new normal’. But I still think the period of long isolation had a lot to teach us about our human needs — both physical and emotional.

What is Virtual Sex?

It’s not surprising that there was a major spike in video dating and virtual sexual activity since lockdown began. But what does fall under virtual sex? How is it different from watching porn?

This particular survey defined virtual sex as “any kind of sexual expression through a phone or a computer”. That meant sexting, phone sex, dating apps, and messaging through various social media.

But there’s also much newer technology in the mix. From remotely operated sex toys you can control with mobile apps to interactive porn and even virtual reality — it’s safe to say things have come a long way since grainy webcams and shady internet chatrooms.

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Is virtual sex “real sex”?

To begin with — what is ‘real’ sex?

There’s a larger conversation about what kind of things people expect from intimacy. The ‘sex talk’ is no longer about the birds and the bees or penises going into vaginas. Because now we know, different kinds of people have different kinds of sex all the time for different reasons. Now we know it’s not always about love, and it’s not always about babies.

Now we are learning; it’s not even always about touch.

If you’re pressed for a common denominator, we can boil it down to sexual intent and sexual stimulation. Sending nudes or putting on a live show on camera. Dirty talk over the phone, telling someone how to touch themselves while they masturbate. The difference between masturbating to someone’s voice versus a recording is that there’s a person on the other end. And that person can consent, be involved, and even reciprocate.

Who is having virtual sex?

Surveys like this one from way back in 2006 are often referenced when it comes to this question. At the time, you might be surprised that an overwhelming majority of a college population was engaging in virtual sex. Now, with the internet being what it is, numbers like this shouldn’t be so surprising.

Even this one by drinkbasic.com had 2000 respondents, but all were under the age of 35, unmarried, and most identified as heterosexual. Either way, they all prove that virtual sex is at least acceptable for dating conventions, if not part of the norm.

Still, it would be nice to hear more insights from less represented demographics, such as the LGBTQ+, the disabled, or the elderly.

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No Longer So Taboo

There was a time when virtual sex — specifically cybersex — was only ever a negative keyword. Many relevant studies at the time were bent a certain way.

Popular funded research often looked for correlations between cybersex and infidelity or between cybersex and sex addiction. Such connections are valid and are important to study. However, overwhelming the field of research with studies linked to deviance helped reinforce the idea that cybersex was only performed by people intending to cheat on their partners or by people who weren’t desirable enough to attract partners in real life.

Putting us in the same boat forced a more sympathetic outlook towards virtual relationships.

The truth is, despite negative connotations, online dating and virtual sex have always been valid options for many groups of people.

For example, if you were in a long-distance relationship, or your job required constant traveling. Or if you want to meet new people with values and interests less commonly found in your geographic vicinity. Not to mention people who have to deal with lifelong health conditions, including HIV/AIDS.

Also, historically, being candid to people you know in real life about sexual orientation wasn’t (and sometimes still isn’t) so safe. It’s common to hear about women and LGBTQ+ growing up finding virtual sex spaces easier, freer, and possibly even safer to navigate.

On the flip side, however, the risks and dangers are still very tangible, particularly regarding safety and privacy.

What about virtual sex is dangerous?

Virtual sex being so accessible is a double-edged sword.

Using dating apps, even just sexting is designed to be easy even for those who aren’t tech-savvy. And if you’re not careful about what you put online, you could be exposing yourself to more than the intended recipient of your photos, videos, or personal information. Even the simple act of sending a faceless nude can make you susceptible to revenge porn.

Another risk with virtual sex is when it becomes a replacement for accessible real-life relationships. Sometimes, it’s just easier to talk to strangers online about your experiences or your feelings. However, isolation and an echo chamber are a bad mix, and you may walk away with a skewed view of reality or unrealistic expectations from real life.

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Finally, just like we mentioned earlier, virtual sex does still count as cheating. In fact, it makes it easier — just ask Ashley Madison.

Outlook: Still good

There are many good rules and tips you can live by if you plan to engage in virtual sex. Never show your face. Use encrypted apps. Be mindful of identifying information, be it distinctive birthmarks, tattoos, or even IDs and nametags.

Even sex parties have gone digital, and it can be a great experience whether you’re single or have a partner.

Despite everything, virtual sex is still inevitably part of the ‘new normal’. And it’s a good way to still be sexual while eliminating the usual hazards that come with real-life sex, such as protection, travel, or logistics. Really, the only way to adapt is to study it and keep adding to the measures that help make it safe.  

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Sex Party Etiquette- Proven Guidelines You Need to Know

So you’ve been asked to a sex party and have no idea what to do or expect? This information will undoubtedly be beneficial. Continue reading!

Sex parties are exactly what their name implies: events where people either watch or engage in sex. The majority of the time, the attendees are there to satisfy a sexual curiosity or participate in one.
Sex parties are about having fun and creating memories that will last a lifetime. People will certainly get drunk and have a good time, complete with loads of hot sex. Expect to watch sex in almost every style imaginable. And just because you’re at a sex party doesn’t mean you have to have sex with a large group of people every time. Going to a party does not guarantee that you will get laid.

Sex parties have rules in place to guarantee that everyone has a good time. As a result, it’s critical to understand which acts are acceptable and which are not. People frequently bring sex toys to play parties. It is safe to say that you are welcome to bring your favorite toys.

Here are a few proven guidelines you need to know before attending a sex party.

Before going to the party, be sure you know the rules.

Before attending, familiarize yourself with the regulations so that nothing takes you off guard. The rules differ from one party to the next. Some hosts may prohibit the use of drugs or alcohol, while others may not. Some may prohibit BDSM activities or confine them to specific areas if some guests are uncomfortable viewing them. Most sex parties will not allow you to photograph the people inside without their permission. Some sex gatherings require condoms, while others do not. Most parties allow snuggling and snogging, but intercourse is not. Some parties prohibit sex actions, for example, no penetration or allowing it only in certain rooms. Understand and respect the house rules to avoid being ejected or blocklisted from events.

When attending a sex party, make an effort to look good.

Put on whatever makes you feel attractive! Looking good is what will get you laid. Often, the hosts will set a dress code for the night. Understand it and adhere to it. Wear something that makes you feel good, look well, and are comfortable, regardless of the dress code. Normally, a good dress and heels are appropriate, but if you feel sexy in a pair of boots and shorts, that’s what you should wear. In any case, don’t be concerned about what you’re wearing.

Take a friend or a partner with you.

Go with a friend who understands the ins and outs of the area. Make sure you’re both comfortable being naked in front of one other, or maybe getting into a sexual scenario together. It makes the entire event more enjoyable. It’s easier to go with a sexual partner because it’s typically difficult to find someone to play with on your first outing. If you’re going to a sex party with a sexual partner, make sure to set some ground rules. You should have a discussion about what you are willing and are not willing to do sexually. Is it okay for you two to have sex with other people, or exclusively as a couple? Once you are at the event, you should follow through on whatever you agree to.

Before touching someone at a sex party, learn to ask for permission. Play must be consensual. It is critical to understand when a person gives consent and when they do not. Also, respect the sex that others enjoy. No one should touch you unless you express your verbal approval or it’s obvious you want to play. Nobody should do anything you don’t want them to, and you should never grab theirs. Learn to ask, “Is it okay if I give you a blow job?” Is it okay if I touch your tits? Consent is important. Touching someone else without their permission is a sure way to get kicked out right away.

Be friendly

Make new pals. Be approachable and direct. Make a name for yourself as a fun, genuine person who values others and understands consent. Engage with others. You can approach someone you fancy, smile and introduce yourself, and ask how their night is going. It will become evident whether or not they want to chat with you. People will start inviting you to sex parties once they realize you are fun and enjoyable to be around.

Do not be afraid to say “No.”

There may be people who want to have sex with you, but you are not willing. That’s perfectly fine! Unwanted attention is easier to avoid at a sex party than at a typical pub. Don’t make a fuss, simply give a polite excuse and walk quietly. Also, be ready for a rejection from others. Do not feel awkward. Simply go on to another individual.

Read: How to Enjoy Your First Sex Party.

If you don’t feel comfortable at a sex party, leave.

It’s fine to leave a sex party if you don’t feel at ease, especially if it’s your first time or you don’t like the vibes. If you don’t feel cool leaving silently, make up an excuse, and get your belongings. As much as you can, avoid causing a commotion. You have the option to leave at any time.

Bring your own condoms and lubricant.

Your hosts will very certainly provide some. But nothing is safer than bringing your own condoms and lubrication. Flavored condoms and other lubricants might cause allergic reactions in certain persons. As a result, I strongly advise that you bring condoms and lubrication.

Make plans to be tested after that.

Always have a sexually transmitted infection (STI) test done before and after attending a sex party about ten days afterward. If you’re a regular at sex parties, you should get full-spectrum testing for sexually transmitted infections at least once every three months, if not more often. Take a break if you get sick until you’re feeling better. That’s proof of being a responsible, sexually active adult.

Sex parties can help you meet others who share your interests in kinks and fetishes and may be willing to explore them with you. Are you looking for the next sex party event in your state? Join our community to meet kinksters who know where the next sex party is going to be held.

“Bi” The Way – 6 Famous Celebrities Speak Up About Being Bisexual

Bisexual Visibility Month may have been last September. And even though by now, that’s a whole two months ago, it’s never too late to celebrate not being straight.

Loving who you want to love shouldn’t have to be so hard. And yet, for a label that could be making things simpler (there are many genders. Check. You can be attracted to at least more than one. Check. What’s hard to understand?), even today, bisexuals still face marginalization from both sides of the picket fence.

It’s great that there’s a lot more opportunity nowadays to discuss what is good representation (in media) and what isn’t. But while directors and screenwriters may not always get it right, they should be taking notes from the many outspoken bisexual celebrities in the music and film industry.

Halsey

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With two Grammys and many artistic accolades under her belt, Halsey has never put down the mantle of being an LGBTQ+ activist.

Halsey isn’t afraid to call out her own record label for perpetuating bisexual or even LGBTQ+ erasure. The artist has openly talked about her struggle for creative control over her own music — even once turning down a huge Katy Perry collab in the name of bisexual representation.

“I’m a young, bisexual woman, and I’ve spent a large part of my life trying to validate myself—to my friends, to my family, to myself—trying to prove that who I love and how I feel is not a phase; it’s not part of some confusion that’s going to change or could be manipulated,”


2018 GLAAD Music Awards

Lauren Jauregui

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Speaking of the Halsey/Katy Perry collab that didn’t happen, it was eventually Lauren Jauregui who would end up featuring on the song.

The Fifth Harmony member is one of the many bisexual celebrities who spoke out against Trump in the 2016 election. That year, Jauregui penned an impassioned letter to Donald Trump and his supporters that wound up published on Billboard. The singer wrote about her struggles and experiences with not just racism and sexism, but also privilege. On the way, she makes a lot of good points about feminism and its intersectionality with cultural and personal identity.

“I am a bisexual Cuban-American woman and I am so proud of it. I am proud to be part of a community that only projects love and education and the support of one another.”


Billboard, 2016

Kristen Stewart

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It’s nice to see the Twilight actress really grow into herself. The actress and filmmaker has opened up about the discomforts of celebrity piling on top of struggles with anxiety and panic attacks.

In an interview with Elle UK, she elaborates on how the degree of scrutiny her relationships (with men) always attracted caused her to retreat inwards. On the other hand, embracing her bisexuality helped change how she viewed and felt about being a public personality.

“When I was dating a guy, I was hiding everything that I did because everything personal felt like it was immediately trivialized, so I didn’t like it.

It changed when I started dating a girl. I was like, ‘Actually, to hide this provides the implication that I’m not down with it or I’m ashamed of it, so I had to alter how I approached being in public. It opened my life up, and I’m so much happier.”


Elle UK, 2016

Evan Rachel Wood

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This is a name that pops up on every big lists of famous bisexual celebrities. Known for her roles in True Blood and Westworld, Evan Rachel Wood only “officially” came out as bisexual via Twitter in 2012.

“I thought women were beautiful, but because I was born that way I never once stopped to think that was strange or anything to fear.”

HRC North Carolina Gala Dinner, 2017

Growing up a ‘tomboy in Raleigh,’ Wood also opened up about ‘suppressing’ her sexual identity as a teen for fear of the hate speech and homophobia she grew up around. It may come from such personal experiences that she advocates not just for more representation but also for fellow bisexual celebrities and artists to ‘speak up.’

“It’s so confusing, especially when there’s not a lot of information out there.

Erasure is causing people harm and diminishing self-esteem and putting people in harm’s way… I want people to know that it’s okay, [bisexuality] is valid, and their stories matter.”


Motto, 2016

Anna Paquin

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Being in a straight relationship doesn’t make anyone less queer. Anna Paquin is one of many bisexual celebrities married to someone of the opposite gender. However, she had this to say when Larry King caleld her a ‘non-practicing bisexual.’

”Well, I don’t think it’s a past tense thing. Are you still straight if you are with somebody? If you were to break up with them or if they were to die, it doesn’t prevent your sexuality from existing. It doesn’t really work like that.”


Larry King Now, 2014

Nico Tortorella

GLAAD Music Awards, 2018

Actor Nico Tortorella and their partner entrepreneur Bethany Meyers are in a polyamorous marriage, and both identify as nonbinary. The star of Younger may have had many labels in his past, from Demisexual to queer to sexually fluid. However in interviews and talks, they have referred to themselves as bisexual.

Today, the bisexual actor and sometimes model is especially active as an LGBTQ+ advocate towards youth.

“And anybody that doesn’t live in that structure needs to find a home of sorts. And I think labels are really important for kids, especially, [who] can’t find their tribe where they are, and need to go find their people, their family. For that reason, I think labels are extremely important.”


The Advocate, 2017

The Bottom Line

What’s behind biphobia may be kind of complicated. And bisexual erasure continues to pervade both literature and film. But one thing is for sure: bisexuals are not “on their way to being gay”, nor are they “not gay enough” — they’re just bisexual.

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Triptastic Sex on Psychedelics

A couple having psychedelic sex on the back of winged beast

Do you ever feel that your sex is lacking something? Have you ever experimented with psychedelics? Have you ever considered having sex using psychedelics? People are increasingly interested in chemsex. Let’s look into psychedelic sex and see what all the hype is about.


The use of drugs to intensify sex is known as party and play or chemsex. It has been associated with gay men and the use of “Poppers,” but couples have been having psychedelic sex for years. While this isn’t for everyone, there are some compelling arguments for it.

The Beginnings of Psychedelic Sex

Sex and drugs are cultural taboos on their own. Understanding how sex and drugs are linked is not something we should be afraid of or dismiss as deviant.

For centuries, people have used drugs to facilitate and enhance their sexual experiences. To increase sexual desire, the ancient Egyptians used extracts from the blue lotus flower. Before the ban in the 1940s, Peyote/Mescaline was used in Native American sex rituals.

The Most Common Drug, Alcohol

Most people are familiar with alcohol, many using it to unwind before having sex. Drugs are used to enhance the experience of sex, whereas alcohol is used to facilitate it. Some people will use a combination of drugs rather than a single substance.

Alcohol and cocaine are used together because cocaine, as a stimulant, counteracts the depressive effect of alcohol. Cocaine, like other stimulants like methamphetamine, extends the sexual experience.

Female on a bed with drugs on breasts

A Case for Pychedelics

Psychedelics influence the brain’s “me” regions, dampening the ego’s constant criticism. Allowing people to unwind and lessen anxieties that are known to stifle sex. Psychedelics are an excellent choice for sex as they reduce insecurities and increase physical awareness.

Frequently the user gains personal insight, has a new experience, or sees themselves from a new perspective, which can significantly impact a sexual experience. Every sexual experience has the potential to teach us something about sex, just as every drug experience has the potential to teach us something about sex.

Ecstasy

A couple having sex on psychedelic drugs

Ecstasy/Molly causes a surge of serotonin and dopamine, the brain’s “feel good” chemicals, releasing it all at once, resulting in a rush of bliss and happiness. Ecstasy can make people horny and increase the sensation of touch. It can also make getting a hard-on or cumming difficult.

Ecstacy increases emotional intimacy, making touch feel sensual and love feel ecstatic, but it can be difficult for some to maintain an erection or reach climax.

Be aware that most dealers selling illegal “molly” or “ecstasy” dilute it with other substances such as cocaine, heroin, or synthetic Ecstasy, all of which can cause seizures and death. Be cautious when using this drug!

Magic Mushrooms

Psilocybin mushrooms/Shrooms can have an effect similar to LSD. For most people, sex isn’t even a consideration when it comes to mushrooms. Most people prefer to cuddle rather than have sex with their partners. There is a sense of intimacy and sensitivity, whether cuddling or having sex. A significant benefit of using mushrooms is the emotional connection they provide.

A lower dose of mushrooms is likely to make you horny. Higher doses will make you so distracted that anything remotely sexual will be impossible to focus on. Shrooms can be difficult to dose at times since different strains have different concentrations.

LSD

Having sex on LSD/Acid is said to be the most pleasurable experience you can have. LSD can make you feel horny, increase the sensation of touch, and cause erotic hallucinations. Sex on acid can appear to last much longer than it does.

Many people regard it as the number one sex drug, with no way to tell your body apart from your partners’. The sensation is amplified, the emotional connection is intense. LSD lowers your inhibitions and alters your perception of reality, making it easier to act out sexual fantasies. Lower inhibitions can also cloud your judgment when it comes to safer sex.

Caution should be used when using any drug; inhibitions are reduced while tripping, and there is always the risk of a bad trip; sex on LSD is best done with someone you know well and trust.

Shrooms and LSD work together, creating heightened sensation and awareness, allowing users to be less self-conscious about their performance and appearance while also strengthening the emotional connection with a partner.

Who you trip with is more important than the substance. Depending on the circumstances, any psychedelic can improve emotional intimacy.

Preparing for a Trip

Drugs scattered on a table

Regardless of which psychedelic you use, set and setting are important factors in your sexual experience. To get the most out of the experience, you must feel completely safe. That safe space should exist in your surroundings, with your partner, and in your mind.

Prior to having open conversations, it’s necessary to feel calm and clear-headed. Start low and gradually increase your dose. A sexual experience will be impossible if the dose is too high.

Psychedelics, like any other substance, can impair your ability to consent. The same rules for non-altered sex apply here: enthusiastic consent, birth control, and protection against sexually transmitted infections.

Negative Views on Psychedelic Sex

Very little is known about the relationship between sex and drugs. In the past, we focused on the links between drug use and “risky” sexual behaviour, such as not using condoms or orgies.

Drug use has also been linked to “impaired” sexual function, such as difficulty maintaining an erection or achieving an orgasm. This paints a negative picture of chemsex.

Ending the Trip

You can only imagine the different experiences you could have if you mix sex and drugs. Psychedelic sex can heighten the emotional connection, intensify senses, cause a loss of time comprehension, and give you the enlightened sensation of losing yourself in another person. Be safe; we can’t stress that enough.

Do you enjoy sex while high on psychedelics? Does it freak you out? I’d like to hear your thoughts on the matter. Do you want to learn more about this topic? Leave a comment below, then head over to Foxtail to see what’s new.

Digitalizing Sex: What Future Sex Toys Are About

It is no denying that technology is peeking and will continue to peek. Multimillion-dollar companies are investing a lot in making daily objects digital and “smart.” Convenience and quality of experience are factors people look into in products and services. This is also true for future sex toys.


Naturally, the most intimate aspect of our lives will also level up and improve. Sex technology is slowly taking center stage, starting with its presence in the Consumer Electronics Show (CES) of 2020. Here, we got a glimpse of how high-tech sex toys will be accessible in the future.

Defining “Smart” Sex Toys

Future sex toys will be equipped with artificial intelligence (AI) for improved product function. These high-technology sex toys will be able to gather and study data using sensors.

The AI technology will use the information to make the user experience more personalized and, therefore, more enjoyable. Smart sex toys will know your individual and couple sex preferences.

Most of these future sex toys will come with an app downloadable through smartphones. These toys come with settings that also tweak sexual preferences. High-tech sex toys come with an app that allows for remote access and control to the toy. This feature is perfect for long-distance couples.

Examples of Smart Sex Toys

Technologically advanced sex toys are now available in the market, albeit limited. Here are brands that released their own high-tech sex toys.

LELO Enigma

This vibrator is perfect for people who like toys that offer subtle suctioning and deep penetration. What makes the Enigma unique is it can stimulate the clitoris without any contact. The intense sensation is a result of sending sonic waves towards the G-spot. Such an unassuming sex toy that packs a punch.

We-Vibe Sex Toys

The Melt Clitoral Stimulator and Chorus Couples Vibrator are just two We-Vibe sex toys that come with a smartphone application. The app gives remote access and control to the toys, making it perfect for solo and partner plays. Both items are now available at the We-Vibe Amazon shop.

Lioness Vibrator

Dubbed as the smartest vibrator to exist, the Lioness picks up biological cues from the body. Body temperature, the deepness of breath, and contractions of the pelvic floor are continuously monitored to pinpoint what makes you climax.


The Lioness even tracks wellness cues such as sleep stats, stress levels, and caffeine consumption when connected to the app. These wellness cues greatly affect a person’s sex life. Check out other excellent vibrators from our own shop.

Elvie Trainer

The Elvie is a sex toy truly worthy of its award-winning status. It serves as both a smart sex toy and your personal trainer. Its mobile application is designed to guide a person through regular Kegel exercise. It also corrects your form and guides you through the whole workout routine. Shop your very own Elvie Trainer now on Amazon!

Fantasy for Her Remote Control Sex Machine

The Fantasy for Her Dildo is far from your typical run-of-the-mill dildo. The sex toy has seven classic vibration patterns and another seven thrusting patterns. Alternative sex machines are also available at our Foxxxy Shop.

Smart Wand

The Smart Wand may look like your typical Magic Wand, but this model is more digital and revolutionized. SenseTouch Technology allows the sex toy to turn on and off on cue, depending on proximity to the body. When the wand touches your body, it automatically turns on, and it turns off when pulled away. Pressing harder to the skin also signals for more intense vibrations. Shop now on Amazon!

OhMiBod Club Vibe

The OhMiBod Club Vibe is such a sleek and compact sex toy. It’s perfect as a wearable item. The vibrator comes with a built-in microphone that is programmed to respond to your partner’s voice or any background music. Get into the sexy lace panties that it comes with upon purchase, and get ready for an interesting night out.

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Lovehoney Wild Thing Vibrating Cock Ring

Finally, a smart sex toy for men! The Lovehoney Cock Ring comes with a remote control with ten distinct functions that any male will surely enjoy.

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Indeed, sex technology is a growing industry worth an estimated amount of $30 billion today. With the rise of online sales, the industry is expected to grow to $52.7 billion by the year 2026.

Companies are working tirelessly towards advancing sex tech for the future. The innovation of future sex toys that optimize and personalize sexual experience. It will be no surprise if sex robots and sex in virtual reality will be largely available in a few years.

While waiting for these future sex toys to be available to the general public, widen your sex toy choices now. There is a wide array of sex toys available online (and in our own sex toy shop!) so make sure to probe each one to see what works wonders for you.

The Most Expensive Sex Toys in the World

The expression “Treat yourself!” has become such a popular excuse for us to splurge on our favorite pair of shoes or a luxurious bag like the Birkin. Or if you’re a reward system kinda girl like myself, you tend to skip out on your daily Starbucks latte to save up on expensive things you want. When it comes to things in the bedroom, this can be the same case. You know, we’re not talking about bedsheets!

A high-tier lifestyle means luxury in all aspects. Affluent sex enthusiasts all over the world also enjoy high-tier sex items. The article presents the most expensive sex toys all over the world (and mind you, these are ridiculously priced!)

Nell Pleasure Seed Vibrator (13,417 USD)

This 18-carat gold clitoral vibrator will be the most luxurious item you will ever place in your intimate areas! Just make sure to lock this up in your safe to prevent petty thieves from stealing your most-prized vibrator.

The Royal Pearl (1 million USD)

The creator of The Royal Pearl, jeweler Colin Burn, described the piece as something fit for royalty. This seven-inch vibrator is clad in platinum and adorned in diamonds, pearls, and other gems. The Pearl depicts a scepter – something royals around the world are in possession of. Burn shared that The Royal Pearl is a functional sex toy. However, we think it looks better on display for its price.

Maleva & Milonga Chinese Ben Wah Balls (500 USD)

These balls, as advertised, enhance orgasms using Kegel exercises. Prolonged use enhances PC muscles in the body and gives you orgasms that rock your world.

The String of Pearls Massage Ring by Betony Vernon (4,889 USD)

This massage ring serves as an opulent accessory to finish up any red carpet look. Little do we know, this 4,000-dollar ring holds kinky secrets. It also serves as a relaxing massage ring for your naughty areas. We imagine pearls running over the skin can feel lavish and fulfilling.

Fuji Glass Dildo with Whip by Fornicouture (1,159 USD)

This is a 2-in-1 sex toy perfect for people with various kinks. Handcrafted and custom materials make up the Fuji Glass Dildo. The body originated from Mt. Fuji in Japan, while the Queen of England’s whip maker himself braided the whip. Now, we do not know what to do with that piece of information, but surely, this dual-purpose sex toy will make you feel like royalty.

Betony Vernon Petting Ring (1,386 USD)

At first look, this Betony Vernon item leaves us confused as to its purpose. The petting ring is designed to increase sensation during male masturbation. With its mouth-dropping price tag, we expect only out-of-this-world things for this ring.

Lelo Inez in Gold (13,416 USD)

This 24-carat gold-plated vibrator piece is guaranteed to bring you the highest form of pleasure that is fitting with its ridiculously high price tag.

Lelo Yva in Gold (3,345 USD)

If the Lelo Inez piece seems too much for you, then the Lelo Yva would seem like a good option because of its relatively friendlier price. Its smaller and more compact size makes the Yva good to carry around during travels. That is if you’re okay with lugging around a 3k gold sex toy. 

Luz de la Riva Luciano Mask for Him (1,375 USD)

Are you planning to engage in some passionate roleplay? For males, the Luciano Mask is a Venetian mask designed to be your most guilty (and most expensive!) pleasure.

Lelo Earl (2,228 USD)

If you ask us, the Lelo Earl butt plug looks more like luxury cufflinks, but these plugs are best for the most esteemed gentlemen who can afford sex toys that cost as much as an apartment’s rent.

Occasionally splurging on luxury goods is no problem, as long as you can afford it. If it makes you feel and look good, then go ahead and spend all you want. If the price tags on these sex toys are too hot to handle, head on over to our very own sex toy shop and find something interesting to try for your nightly pleasures.

A Beginner’s Guide to Sexual Transmutation

Sex is an intimate and powerful activity that brings about new life. That same energy can be transformed into something that can be channeled into other activities. This phenomenon is referred to as sexual transmutation.

What is sexual transmutation? To understand this process better, let’s breakdown the term itself. Transmutation is the act of transforming or changing from the original form to another. Usually, the word refers to an element or energy. Thus, sex transmutation is the transformation of the energy of desire to other forms of energy.

Sexual Transmutation and Its Benefits

Sexual energy is part of a person’s life force. Learning how to channel, transform, and manifest this sexual energy will not only give you an extra boost in our day-to-day tasks, but also give you better self-discipline and self-control.

Mood and mental clarify is improved through practice. As you practice self-awareness in transmutation, confidence and the courage to face challenges increase. Studies also show that sexual transmutation increases testosterone levels in men.

How to Transmute Sexual Energy

Abstaining is key.

The first step of partaking in sexual transmutation is abstaining from all forms of sexual activity. Yes, including masturbation and and watching porn. Doing this ensures that a good amount of sexual force is retained in your body.

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Be self-aware.

It requires a great deal of awareness of the self and one’s own energy. Getting in tune with yourself is essential in sexual transmutation because the process is internal. The success of these first few steps relies in one’s sense of intuition, intelligence, and imagination.

Utilize movement, breath, and sound.

In practicing sexual transmutation, a person works using their heart center by making the energy flow through the body, to the heart space, and then releasing it. As the energy is flowing, take big and deep belly breaths to start.

As you breathe out, release the energy, and sound out a long “HA”. This sound is an ancient seed syllable that causes vibrations to flow inside the body and to the heart. Of course, you can always use another sound or mantra to channel energy, depending on what you’re comfortable in.

The last step is doing gentle and calming movements. Since you want the energy to flow, you can use gentle body movements to help redirect energy around the body. Yoga and meditation are some of the recommended forms of movement for a good energy flow.

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Channel your energy into other activities.

Once you’re ready to transmute your chakra, immediately jump into an area of your life you want to use this sexual energy on. One might use energy in composing music, painting, working out, presenting at work for a big project, etc.

Newbie Techniques for Sexual Energy Transmutation

Try the 7-day experiment.

Try to abstain from any sexual act for a week. You may try it alone or with your partner. During this period, observe and explore your emotions. Write this in a notebook or save it on your phone as documentation.

Assess if you benefit or struggle during this time. Does your mood improve? Are you left feeling grumpy and frustrated? This will then determine if sex transmutation can be a key part of your life.

Observe but don’t judge.

As you go deeper into the road to sexual transmutation, learn to let all your emotion emerge. Emotions are natural. Simply observe and document your emotional standpoint.

However, refrain from labeling them as good or bad. Self-aware eases a person into the act of transmutation.

Visualize as you orgasm.

When engaging in sexual acts or intimacy, have a clear intention in mind. Think about a goal or interest you want to spend your energy. As you reach orgasm, imagine yourself achieving those goals and dreams.

The energy provided by the sexual climax is now being directed towards that visualization. Eventually, this practice gives that image power for manifestation.

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Sexual transmutation is an advanced practice that involves deep self-awareness. It requires patience and persistence, but once successful, can be very rewarding and useful in daily life. You may try it whenever you need that extra kick of energy in your daily life!

Give sexual transmutation a try and let me know how it went in the comments below. Discuss the topic with like-minded sex enthusiasts on Foxtail app.

Swingers Party: How to Enjoy Your First Sex Party

You arrive with some food and drink to share. You go around greeting people you know and meeting new people while relaxing with food and drink. The host lays out basic rules, such as where sex is permitted and where it is not (customarily explained before arrival), no unwanted force, and respect for any rules laid out by the participants prior, during, and after sexual interaction. Condoms are usually provided by the host, but you can bring your own if you prefer. Safe sex is negotiated between the parties involved.

If you have a partner, you will have your own pre-agreed-upon comfort level rules about what is and isn’t acceptable to do while at the party. When you become attracted to a person or people, you discuss (in whatever level of detail you want) what you want to happen next and during your interaction. Have a good time! When you’re ready to leave, you thank your host and either return home or continue on to other delights.

Does this sound like fun? Keep reading

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What is a Swingers Party?

Few people realize that swinging as a fad in America began in the 1950s when Air Force officers in California started swapping wives. Since then, it has been more common among those 35+ years old, behind closed doors. It has become more mainstream with younger crowds, with the push being driven by women looking to call the shots. Swinger parties have become so typical there are even websites where people host swinger parties.

A swingers party is meant for individuals with a desire to: watch others have sex, swap partners (soft or full swap), be cuckolded, play in an orgy, and so much more. It’s a lower risk, higher adrenaline encounter. Low risk since the attendance is kept private and sex takes place around other respectful adults. High adrenaline, as things can move very fast!

Those familiar with the swinging world refer to it as the “Lifestyle.” People in the lifestyle typically meet online before meeting in person. They meet randomly at sex parties to avoid the possibility of an affair. Sex parties can take place at a designated sex party location or in a private area of residence. The rules are pretty standard, with consent being the highest priority.

Rules at a Swinger Party

NO means “NO” Especially At a Sex Party

This rule is paramount for obvious reasons, this is the most important of the swinger rules. If someone is violated at a party, word will travel fast. This can lead to lawsuits, “being canceled,” violence, or worse. Typically party-goers want to avoid any negativity or hostility, so it’s best to ask.

Tip: If it’s not a FUCK YES!!! It’s a Hell No.

I’ve often seen guys asking for something and being met with kind rejection only to keep pushing. Sex parties are not the place to push what you want on to others. Check your ego and pride at the door. We’re all here to have a good time!

Swinger parties are also no a place for the meek. Owning your “NO” at a sex party is your most valuable tool. Subtitles can be missed when drinks and genitals are on the table (literally lol). Practice saying and receiving no with a friend or partner before attending to get you in the habit of saying it and hearing it, and you’ll be fine.

Remember, you can always say NO. There’s never a reason to be ashamed or worried. Swinger parties are meant to be the fun, sexy experience you’re imagining. You may not get exactly what you want every time, but if you abide by the NO, you’ll be invited again.

Aggressive behavior

This rule closely follows the law, “NO means NO.” Remember that not everyone likes rough sex. Get a feel for your partner and their desires. Do not use violence if you do not get consent in advance. Do not force your partner to do anything. Even if you previously had rough sexual intercourse with a particular individual, this does not mean that the person is ready for this again. Remember, any sexual manifestations depend on the mood of the person.

Always be courteous and polite. Getting upset or “butthurt” because you were asked to leave is a sign of not being able to take rejection.

It is strictly forbidden to force or pressure someone.
Proceed only by mutual agreement!

Age limits

Anyone attending a sex party must be 18 years or older. Most swing party organizers require people over the age of 21. As we said above, consent is essential here. Swing party members must be able to legally to consent. If you’re unsure, don’t risk it. There are more fish in the orgy ??.

Why Do You Want to Attend Swing Parties?

That’s precisely what you should ask yourself before joining swinger parties. Are you doing this for yourself or to please someone else. If it’s later, you may cause yourself lasting psychological harm. If you are looking to test the waters, attend as a voyeur and clarify that you are not there to play.

Do not surprise your partner by inviting them to swinger parties. If you do this, they may act without having proper time to mentally prepare. If they don’t have any interest, unfortunately, you may have to find a new partner or come to an agreement. This may be tough to hear, but there’s no way around it. If they are working toward it, don’t bring it up often, as it can make it seem like a condition of your affections. They may not want to experience the jealously or thoughts of you and another or vice versa.

Compersion is the quality found in people who can find pleasure in watching their partner receive pleasure. This quality is scarce. It can be developed, but it will require work and compromise on both sides. Yes, if you want them to do it, be prepared to do the same for them.

A butt for a butt as they say ?.

Do not Get Entangled with other Couples

I can’t emphasize this enough. Do not get entangled with other people in the group party. Do not try to connect with someone without speaking to their partner. Unless you are building a friendship naturally, leave the party at the party.

These are often mistakes of amateur swingers who have shown the so-called “Spark of Love.” This leads to feuds in a sex party, and it can really get ugly, especially if there are drugs involved. Remember, relationships can be fragile, don’t be a homewrecker.

If you and your partner are looking to make more profound relationships. Consider going on a “couple’s date.” This will give everyone the chance to get to know each other and establish boundaries. When trust is established, there’s no limit to where things can go!

Phones

Never pull out your phone! If you must use your phone, go to the bathroom. By nature, these parties are private. Respect everyone’s privacy, and don’t bring your phone out. Some places will even take your phone and smash it. Leave the party, take your call and come back.

Alcohol

On the one hand, alcohol in moderation promotes relaxation and extra excitement. However, it is worth remembering that alcohol consumed more than your average amount can have the opposite effect. Alcohol is a depressant, after all.

Drink as much as you should, not as much as you could.

Drugs

I strongly advise against using drugs at swing parties.

Firstly, you can run into severe problems with the authorities. Second, you can’t consent thoughtfully, which will have lasting consequences. Last, being in a state of drug intoxication will not give you the whole experience of swinging.

If a swinger party is boring, leave. Save your drugs for a better party.

Dress Code

Most swinger Parties have a theme that the organizers decide in advance. Typically, it’s some kind of clothing-based themes like a toga or costume party.

If this information is not specified, contact the event organizer and clarify all your questions. Anyway, it would be best if you were neatly dressed and well-groomed.

Prostitution

The swing is an exchange of partners by mutual agreement. Never offer party members sex with your partner for money. You will be instantly removed from the sex party and receive a ban from all future events.

Hygiene

Always be clean and have a pleasant appearance. Wear a small amount of perfume or non at all; some are allergic or sensitive to strong scents.

Wear deodorant, be squeaky clean, and brush your teeth right. You can also bring your own sex toys and don’t forget about condoms. Safety should come first.

Respect

Do not criticize, try to change, or judge anyone. Don’t judge. #DontYuckMyYum as we say.

You should discuss desires and preferences with your partner in advance. Go into the party with a game plan of what to look for and work as a team. Swinger parties can be an actual test of the strength of a relationship.

What You Need to Know About Swinging

Experienced swing couples believe that sharing intimate acts and fantasies with a partner has a colossal arousal power. Swinging with others can bring partners closer together thru compersion and fulfillment. Sex parties are a natural and enjoyable way to prevent sneaky infidelity and subsequent breakup.

Swinging is not the same as Kink. The two are close neighbors but often don’t mix. Bring toys to play with your partner, but no one is looking to be dominated or worshiped more often than not. They are there to F*#k (Fuck).

The Bottom Line

Have sex as much as you want, enjoy it, get the most out of it. Everyone should have fun, so stick to the above rules, and the world of sexual happiness will open for you. Having sex with your loved one and enjoying other partners is much better than infidelity. I recommend that you try this kind of sex and get an unforgettable experience. Discover parties going on this week on Foxtail. You will want more!

Fart Fetish: 5 Most Fascinating Reasons You Are Aroused by Farts

Fart fetish, also known as eproctophilia, is where human farts sexually turn on an individual. Fascinating, yes? In most relationships, people dread that moment when they fart in front of their lover for the first time. Time literally stands still. However, some people gain sexual pleasure from their partner’s farts. This sexual fetish is characterized by sexual arousal from the smell and sound of the farts. Sexual pleasure comes mainly from the body odors of their significant other. Olfactophilia, closely related to eproctophilia, is where people obtain sexual pleasure from body odors and smells, especially genitals.

Here are some of the reasons why you find farts sexually appealing

1. Farting Exposure

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According to Mark Griffiths, a certified psychologist at the University of Nottingham Trent, some people experience eproctophilia from an early age. They are attracted by human farts, especially from people they love.

For instance, Brad’s fart fetish began when he was 16. He met a cute girl who farted right beside him at school. This seemed to lay the foundation for Brad’s flatulence fascination. This sexual fetish increased over time. According to Brad, any event or location that exacerbates farting could lead to passing gas as a sexual preference.

Griffith also found that for guys, the nastier the fart and the more beautiful the lady is, the greater the sexual arousal is. People with a fart fetish prefer massive farts to a mild toot. Although, there is evidence that farts can sexually arouse bisexual people of both sexes.

2. Intimacy

fart fetish enhances intimacy

Intimacy is still one of the main attractions in sexual fetishes. Individuals with fart fetishism derive sexual gratification from their intimate partners’ farts or those they find attractive. You may also find it much more intimate than intercourse since most people consider it somewhat “dirty,” taboo, and less traditional. For women, it shows that they are not ashamed of you and that they trust you completely.

3. Dominance and Humiliation

fart fetish is a form of BDSM

Dominance and humiliation, a subgenre of BDSM, are forms of sexual fetish that involve one party dominating and humiliating the other. This fetish has been around since ancient times. However, while this interaction sexually arouses only a minority, most fart fetish individuals seek sexual gratification from this form of behavior.

An eproctophilia may be in these two or both categories- the dominant one and the slave, commonly known as the fart slave. The dominant gets pleasure in farting on their partner’s face while the slave smells fart to satisfy their sexual fantasy.

4. Vulnerability

Farting enhances vulnerability

Generally speaking, we don’t fart on the first date because modern society thinks it’s disgusting. However, doing it, later on can also enhance intimacy and vulnerability. We feel comfortable knowing that our crush will not judge us no matter how horrible our farts are. Since farts are seen as embarrassing, humorous, and unpleasant, you will most likely get sexually aroused. This is because you believe that this is your partner’s most vulnerable experience.

5. Novelty

Fart fetish is linked to sexual arousal

Some people have stated that they were first intrigued by flatulence at a young age. Some of them came from families that barred them from farting and using the word. Subconsciously, some of these individuals now have a longing for the subversive fetish.

The Bottom Line

Have you got a fart fetish? Do you wonder what it would be like to sniff or hear the sounds of someone’s farts? Are you an ass-lover who likes asses and everything, including the nasty wind? You may think that you are weird because most people think having this obsession is “disgusting”.

Well, there is nothing to be embarrassed about. There are so many people like you with the same fetish. Nothing is nasty or disturbing unless it hurts somebody. A fart never hurts anyone as long as they are into the fetish. It’s funny, and if it’s sexual, it’s enjoyable! It’s time you embrace your weird self.

Even as society pathologizes fart fetish, it is just like any other fetish. It may not be what rocks your boat, but guess what? It makes an eproctophilia excited at the prospect of it. Watch this, collection of girl farts, if you have a fart fetish. You can also check out our blog for similar thrilling topics or leave a comment below. We appreciate your thoughts.

The Most Boring Article About Foot Fetish You’ll Ever Read

Fetishes are not as unusual as mainstream norms would have you believe, but for some they can be hard to embrace at first. If you have a foot fetish, you may be aroused by the sight of another’s tootsies! You may enjoy giving or receiving foot massages.

Your spine may tingle when your feet are softly licked or sucked. Or you may see a pair of feet and become aroused at the thought of putting them in your mouth or on your genitals. Some fetishists enjoy the smell of feet after walking around all day or working out. From sight, to touch, to smell and even taste, foot fetishists can enjoy feet through different senses.

Having Feet Fetish is Pretty Standard

If you didn’t know it, you would think this was very rare. One rough estimate came from a study that appeared in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. The participants rated their fetish interests on a scale of one to five (5 being the highest). A foot fetish was reported by about 10% of respondents, with a similar number reporting a shoe fetish. The overall ratio of participants was much higher when it came to sexualizing feet or shoes.

Is There Anything to Worry About?

Great news! You don’t have to worry about getting pregnant with foot sex! However, be advised that delicate skin can be cut around the penis, vagina, or anus by sharp toenails. If you anticipate getting your feet involved in the action, make sure your toenails are trimmed to avoid cutting your partner during their foot-job.

Dipping Your Toes into Foot Fetish

It is essential to take your time when introducing a partner to footplay for the first time. Make it clear what you intend to do by sharing your favorite foot fantasy. Share what arouses you most about your fantasy with your partner so they know what turns you on about feet. For example, is it the way they smell? The wrinkles on the bottom? Their cute toes? Get curious, sharing what it is about feet that turn you on will help your partner know how to play and explore in this new kink together.


Invite your partner to join you on the couch one night and then offer to massage each other’s feet. At the very least, it’s a fantastic way for your partner to wind down, and if nothing else, it’s a good way for you to become aroused. ;)

Put your Best Foot Forward

The best place to start with erotic foot encounters is with foot massages. Because of the vast array of nerve endings found in the foot and the soothing texture of massage oil and lotion, a foot massage can provide a calming and a stimulating effect. If you are new to exploring your foot fetish with your partner, start by (consensually) massaging their feet and see how the two of you respond.


If both parties are comfortable, you can move from massage to gently licking or sucking the feet. It’s truly spine tingling! Who doesn’t enjoy a good foot licking?

In Summary…

Alway remember to include consent and clear communication when introducing new kinks, whether they are with a new play partner or in a long-standing monogamous relationship. While it can be daunting to share something that feels secret, you’ll never get what you truly want if you don’t ask!

If your feet are feeling frisky, go to Foxtail and find others who want to have their feet worshiped, or want you to obsess over their feet.