It’s not unusual for femdoms to assign tasks to a submissive, whether you’re in a 24/7 relationship with your submissive or you want to maintain your sexy relationship in their mind until your date the following week. You can’t be with your submissive all the time, and to be candid, it’d be pretty toxic, but giving them a daily task or two may be a really sexy way of making sure they don’t forget who holds the power.
What exactly is FemDom?
Female domination, or femdom as it is often known, is a hugely popular kink. It is a widespread practice in which a woman dominates her partner. It involves impact play, bondage, humiliation, face sitting, pegging, or any other scenario emphasizing the domme’s authority. All of which can be done safely.
Empress Wu, a dominatrix, residing in New York City, defines femdom as a term used to “note that there is a femme-presenting dominant in the kink scene,” or a Domination/submission (D/s) role-play.
The attractiveness of female domination originates in part from its primary kink: D/s. Submission can satisfy sensual urges to serve, pleasure, or surrender for the sake of submission. Meanwhile, the power struggle with her submissive can be fascinating for dommes.
Many women even claim that FemDom improves their orgasms. Fortunately, there are many FemDom ideas that you and your partner can test out together. FemDom, as previously stated, can also be used by same-sex couples.
FemDom is quite enticing since the women who want to play the dominant role frequently wear sensual apparel, which makes them extremely attractive. So, instead of conventional underwear, you might see your partner wearing a tight corset.
Why do women enjoy trying FemDom?
Despite what was once widely held, women are now working as leaders in many parts of the world. Things have evolved, and having a female boss is not as unlikely as it once was. As a result, there will be an increasing number of women in the partnership who want to be in charge. And they genuinely know how to steer the relationship, so we’re not sure what’s wrong with that.
Many women enjoy FemDom because it provides them with freedom and independence. Every woman carries a Dominatrix within her that yearns to be released. There is a Tigress within you waiting to be released. Most of the female dominance you may have seen in porn movies is far too excessive, and it is primarily staged. They are also quite challenging to carry out.
Exploring FemDom with your partner might genuinely strengthen your sexual connection and bring you closer together in the long run. It also increases trust and promotes communication. At the end of the day, good communication skills are essential ingredients in any successful, healthy relationship—romantic or otherwise.
FemDom is popular among women because it gives them control. Being in charge can be pretty enticing. It’s fun to be in charge of your spouse, having them perform your duties, run errands for you, and punish them for jobs they don’t do.
Some good things to ask your online subs to determine their interest in a FemDom relationship are:
- What might our online relationship look like in an ideal world?
- How frequently would we talk? Do you primarily expect real-time updates?
- What choices do you have for communicating online? (Skype, snapchat, Kik, Discord, and so on.)
- What services can you offer me?
- What could you help me with?
- How long do you think this will last?
- How would you let me know if you don’t want to continue? (Be careful of anyone who doesn’t have a clear answer.) You’ll almost certainly be ghosted.)
- What real-life obligations will have an impact on our connection, and how can I ensure we don’t interfere with them?
What everyday activities can you do with your sub in an online relationship?
Since you will be in an online relationship, you should be prepared to have a video call, text, or voice call with the person. Remember, you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do, but there is no point in being in a relationship if you don’t talk voice to voice or cam to cam. Here are some things you could do on a video call together:
- Request that the submissive write essays. It could be about the gratification of pain, why reverence is essential, how to hold a certain position, or anything else. If you want, you can create guidelines for all of these. Such as number of words, no incorrect spellings, and proper grammar. Just make certain to read It dominatrix!
- Before starting the day, write the dominatrix’s name on the submissive’s body to remind them who owns them.
- Have the sub perform exercises on a daily basis to improve their body.
- Search YouTube for amusing videos.
- Have the submissive take photos/video of any task completed/as ‘proof’ that it was completed.
- Make video messages for each other that are affectionate, erotic, orders, and fantasy.
- Call each other in the middle of the night (but not too frequently! ), just to say you’re thinking about each other.
- Call the sub and instruct them to listen to the dominatrix masturbate/instruct them to masturbate.
- Have the submissive go shopping for specific products.
- Make the submissive wear no underpants for the entire day.
- Have the submissive write your name on their body and leave it there all day.
- Teach them how to tie a crotch rope and then have them wear it one day.
- Have the submissive to wear butt plugs in public.
- Decide on their appearance for the day.
- Take filthy pictures in public locations.
- Request that they dress up in a specific manner and pose for photographs.
- Have them imitate other photos you’ve seen on the internet.
- Instruct the sub to eat only at scheduled times.
Exciting FemDom Ideas for an in-person sub
This is where all dominant females shine since they all have wild imaginations and crazy ideas running through their heads, and when they need to keep you occupied, they have no shortage of things to hand out to you. If you are not running errands or doing labor for Mistress, you should be doing something. The femdom tasks you will be given must be completed exactly as written.
Allow your partner to adore your feet
Some females become extremely aroused when their partner kisses or licks their feet and shoes, which may seem strange to some people. Consider wearing a good pair of gorgeous high heels that you bought specifically for your FemDom kink night.
Allow your partner to lick it, raise their body temperature, and lure them with the promise of more.
Other aspects of foot worship include gently kicking your companion with your foot. You can even tread on him and finally ask them to lick your bare feet; after all, you want your spouse to worship your feet, don’t you?
Cock and ball bondage
Cock and ball bondage is not for everyone. So, if it feels a little too terrifying for your partner in especially, you can buy a stretchable penile ring instead of a metallic cock ring. They’re stretchy and comfortable to wear. Inquire if they are at ease using them.
Understand, you are not making a pornographic video, and you are here to test FemDom because you want to have fun. You can acquire a metal cock ring if they become comfortable with the cock and ball bondage.
There is also a product called Gates of Hell on the market, including many metal rings. That’s quite harsh, but if your partner wants it, give it to him. You can also acquire a cage for your partner if you’re going to try something more intense.
Request that they bring their genitals inside and wrap them in a plastic bag. Don’t let him go too hard, and that’s their task.
It’s time for some sissy fun.
Why not get your male companion a pair of girlie underwear? You may not be aware, but some men enjoy wearing frilly underwear when in a submissive position. They enjoy hearing insults or compliments from their companion.
If it’s not enjoyable and he doesn’t like it, you can both laugh about it later. Wouldn’t it be fantastic to inject some levity into your FemDom routine? Consider this. You can also make your partner wear it as a kind of punishment.
Check the internet for the most fantastic underwear for your lover so that you may both have the best time together. While he is getting dressed for you, come up with a pseudonym for your submissive partner and call him by that name. If he gets turned on by that, humiliate him or laugh aloud.
Consider using Impact Play.
If you wish to engage in full-time FemDom kink, you should try impact play. You can come up with a way to discipline your submissive partner. Ask them to get down on their knees and transform into a dog.
Spank his buttocks hard, and let your spouse request more spanks to turn him on. You can use your hands, a tailed riding crop, or a spatula if you want to go old-school. This will give you the distinct impression that you are assuming a dominant role.
Paddles, slappers, crops, canes, floggers, and whips are just a few of the tools you can use to spank your partner’s buttocks. Each of these wacky objects is available for purchase online. Buy these if you want the FemDom thing to be taken seriously.
Bondage is a must-do activity if you want to take FemDom to its extreme. Consider using a standard handcuff to bind your partner’s hands. You can blindfold them or put a scarf in their mouth to prevent them from speaking.
If you really want to hurt their body, you can bind their wrists and legs together and try to stretch them. Another item you can purchase for the bondage role-playing activity is the gag.
Request that he stretches his legs puts on some nipple clamps, and torture you until he pleads you to let him have sex with you.
Include teasing to make your partner feel aroused while you attempt other things. Touch him all over since this will make him highly wet. You must tease him and continue to push him. He’ll ask you for more as soon as he can.
Begin by softly touching him. You can choose to touch his chest or genital regions, and if he tries to touch you, you can tell him that you have not yet given him permission to do so. When he oversteps his bounds, remind him that he owes you an apology.
You can also request that your spouse call you by a specific name or refer you as the Mistress.
Keep his orgasm under control
Assume you let him play with your vagina. He starts fucking you hard, and when you sense he’s cumming, you may control or stop him from cumming by wearing a chastity belt and hitting him hard enough to spoil the entire climax atmosphere.
Many people love being able to manage their partner’s orgasm. You can control his orgasm for as long as you want. You can repeatedly bring your lover to the brink of orgasm and then refuse to let them cum. That is the entire game!
Request that they serve you.
This is the most enjoyable aspect of the FemDom kink. Request that your partner serve you. You can request that he do anything for you.
Tell him that you want a complete body massage, that you want a boob massage, that you wish to anything and everything from him, and your partner will deliver it to you. If you don’t want to be horny, have him paint your nails or give you a foot massage instead.
Consider anything you would like your partner to serve you with, and he must do so.
Another approach to improve your FemDom relationship with your partner is to humiliate them. Humiliation does not necessarily have to be severe, but partners who frequently practice FemDom feel better when the female degrades him more severely. Insults can cause your man to develop a hard-on.
There are numerous options available to you. For example, when your sub eventually begins to fuck you, you can inform him that his performance is terrible. Try to embarrass him as much as possible. He will do his best to please you. After all, why wouldn’t you desire a good fuck?
You might even consider forcing them to perform embarrassing behaviors, such as dancing or dressing like a lady. Tell them to lick their own cum when he orgasms, and punish him if he doesn’t.
Consider anal play.
You should first consult with your partner about anal play humiliation. Find out if they are okay with the idea of dominance. If they agree, you can purchase anal sex items such as dildos and butt plugs.
Anal play might be daunting for some men, and some may feel ashamed after an anal sex play. Many straight men believe that the anal plug is only for women’s sexual pleasure, not men’s, even though anal play can be enjoyed by anybody.
You have complete control over the anal play. You can ask your partner to lie down in a specific position for you and begin playing with their butthole in any way that makes you feel happier.
Before you begin the anal activity, inform your partner that you’d prefer him to come to clean shaved for you. Request that he shave your genitals properly. A prostate massage is something that some guys appreciate. If your man is into it, toying with their anus may be a lot of fun.
To make things more enjoyable for both of you, we propose discussing it with your partner and asking them if they are willing to go for butt play. After all, consent is the most fundamental component of any sexual connection, which is more accurate when exploring BDSM.
Request oral sex from your partner
FemDom allows you to feel pleasure exactly how you want it. So, while he is still obedient and you haven’t finished punishing him or requesting him to serve you better, you might urge your partner to kneel down and begin giving you oral pleasure.
You can request that he give you oral sex in a specific manner or that he use a sex toy on you. You may comment on his performance while he performs the routine for you. Also, you can choose to congratulate him for doing his job correctly or criticize him for his poor performance.
Request that your man dress a certain way.
Females in FemDom do not always have to dress in a certain way to appear dominant. You might request that your man dress the way you want him to. This will undoubtedly excite your FemDom fetish.
When it comes to your attire, you can wear whatever makes you feel powerful.
Black is the perfect color to go with because it is just the appropriate hue to look and feel dominant. On the other hand, men can be asked to wear feminine panties that they may have purchased or to remain naked.
You have several options, including wearing high heels to satisfy your foot fetish. Some women love to wear thigh-high boots with their pencil skirts. If a pencil skirt isn’t your thing, try a bodycon dress. You can also wear a corset with black underwear.
Lingerie can also be a fantastic option. You’re the queen of the show, so wear whatever feels comfortable.
Making use of props
When performing a FemDom act, women might employ several accessories. Some props are used to spank the partner. Some are intended for bondage, while others are intended for anal play.
The dominating partner may use any accessory she like, depending on the manner and level of humiliation she desires.
It is an essential foreplay method for the dominant partner to command the submissive partner. The Mistress of the home can employ various forms such as spanking, bondage, preventing him from cumming after reaching the peak, taunting, and so on.
A suede whip is a toy. A dominatrix can use it to spank her partner’s ass. The quality of the suede whip and the type of mark it leaves on the partner’s ass makes the dominatrix feel the shame she is causing the man.
The technique entails striking the partner’s buttocks while groaning. This technique employs paddles, floggers, crops, canes, and other implements. Sometimes the submissive partner wishes for the dominatrix to spank him to turn him on.
Sensory play is a method used by females to turn themselves on. The technique entails bootlicking, foot licking, and a variety of other behaviors that stimulate the sensory nerves of the dominant partner. The dominatrix will employ props such as a pinwheel, feathers, ice, and so on to arouse her lover.
Smothering, queening, or kinging is an erotic practice in which a dominant female sits on her sub’s face. There are various variations, such as when a sub is required to gratify a Domme by licking her genitals (ass and pussy) or when a sub is required to bear Mistress’s weight while torturing him fully clothed.
Sometimes, a Domme can use a particular face sitting furniture, such as a smother box or a queening stool. The fact that a Mistress can smother a sub any time and any location is one of the reasons for her appeal. Some individuals are particularly attracted when a domineering girl has an enormous ass.
Wear a blindfold
Domination through blindfold is an intriguing sort of domination. The man is entirely in the dark because his eyes are blinded, and he can only hear the sound of his partner wandering around and laughing. This strategy can be frightening because the person can only imagine the humiliation the female partner would tolerate.
While having sex, pinwheel domination is both an exciting and hazardous strategy. The method entails utilizing a pinwheel with spikes affixed to it. It is then put into the male partner’s butthole. It gives the companion both an exhilarating and uncomfortable experience.
It is one of the most widely used domination methods. It’s one of the most secure means of commanding and teasing a man’s senses. In this form of rule, the male partner is constantly stimulated but cannot get an erection.
The stimulation activates the person’s sensory nerves, causing an erection.
The ice play is a risky but safe sort of foreplay. It is crucial when used on sensitive and thin skin parts such as the penis, clitoris, etc. The ice might obstruct sensory movement and cause nerve injury, leading the person to lose excitement.
You can use it in the nipple area and other body parts. Interestingly, the dominatrix should administer the freezing therapy without any previous warning.
Cuckolding is a fetish in which males enjoy watching their partners have sex with others. If you want to start the whole thing from the beginning and work your way down, you can initiate with another man while your partner watches.
The female partner can make it even more vicious by not observing the man.
Humiliation vs. Sexual Tasks
Subs tasks are classified into two major categories: humiliating tasks and sexual tasks. It will be dependent on who you engage with and what you enjoy doing. It is vital to identify whether or not task categories are assigned or if the two are merged.
List of humiliating tasks to assign to your online sub
- Applying red lipstick Draw the words “slut” all over your head, “tit” on your face, and “fag” on your right cheek. Ensure to smear lipstick all over your lips as messily as possible. Make a small sign that says ” ‘s Bitch” by hand. Snap a photograph and email it to me.
- Put on a bra and pantyhose, reach for a cucumber. Give that cucumber the best blow job. You can either video it or snap photos, whatever is more convenient for you. To accomplish the challenge, you must submit at least 5 images or a 30-second video.
- Wear a plain t-shirt. Make holes in your shirt so that only your nipples show. Take a picture of yourself touching your nipples while holding an ice cream sandwich and take a photo in the presence of the retailer.
- Put on an adult diaper before going to work. You are not permitted to use any bathrooms throughout the day and must hold your urine for as long as possible before being forced to leak in your diaper.
- Masturbate with a generous dose of Icy Hot or muscle massage before eating your minty load of cum.
- You will be handed a composed note from me, enclosed in an envelope, and will be required to hand it over to the most gorgeous lady in the mall. You must wait there as she reads it, oblivious to the information it contains about your task. Also, you must then follow her instructions. I’m in the mall.
- Dip a loaf of bread in hot chocolate and fuck it until it’s time to cum. Shoot your load onto a slice of the freshly fucked bread, then devour the cum-covered, bread.
List of sexual tasks to assign to your online sub
- Observe the dominatrix masturbating. The submissive may or may not be allowed to touch, themselves.
- Allow the submissive replicating lick the dominatrix pussy (with a finger or toy) While chatting, keep the subordinate naked.
- While you watch, have the submissive masturbate, smack themselves, taste their cum, pinch their nipple, and play with toys.
- Whether you notify them ahead of time, or not, call them when you’re horny, and have your sub show you your favorite parts of their body. This can make any day a little bit sexier.
- Make them write you some dirty poetry, record an audio or video of them telling you exactly what they think of when they touch themselves, or paint you a picture of the heated things going through their heads.
- If you don’t want your sub to create anything completely from beginning, you can have them explore the internet for pornographic content and select only the best for their mistress to see. Make a Tumblr for just the two of you, fill an erotica anthology with post-its, and make a favorites list on your favorite porn site (one that you pay for, please!). This is another wonderful method to get inside your submissive’s head, and the best part is, they’ve already done the legwork for you the next time you need to come up with a scene idea!
- Do you want your partner to try something new and give feedback to you? Instructing them to conduct sexual experiments on themselves can include asking them to size up to a larger toy so they can take more when they see you, instructing them to learn exactly what kind of vibration they enjoy, instructing them to practice their deep-throating so you can use their mouth more efficiently, or whatever your pervy little heart desires.
Typically, tasks result from the creativity and strenuous effort of the dominatrix who dominates her subs. That is to say, there are no restrictions on what you can ask of the sub. Remember that delegating tasks should be fun for you and stem from genuine honesty. It shouldn’t be a guessing game as to what a sub wants. There are also different methods for controlling your sub while in a long-distance relationship.
Remember that the more you communicate, the more you will enjoy yourself. While experimenting with FemDom, you may need to purchase specific items, such as BDSM sex toys, sex furniture, or anything else that will allow you and your partner to enjoy each other more.
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