Daddy Dom and Little Girl (DDLG) relationships are one of the most misconstrued BDSM relationships. A DD/LG relationship can be immensely gratifying for many couples. There are many new and exciting feelings to discover, and it might offer an entirely new dynamic to your current relationship.
Continue reading to learn about “Little Space” and “Daddy Rules”, as well as new ways to enjoy age play with the correct interests.
What is Daddy Dom and Little Girl (DDLG)?
DDLG stands for Daddy Dom Little Girl. DDLG or DD/LG is a type of age-play, a kink/fetish in which one person is a caregiver or Daddy, and the other is a child. It is not the relationship between a parent and a child. DDLG is a close cousin to BDSM and is essentially a kinky age play/roleplay between two consenting adults. DDLG has NOTHING to do with incest; it is a play played by two CONSENTING ADULTS.
DDLG is a subtype of BDSM that shares many characteristics with other BDSM relationship styles. It’s also known as DD/LB (Daddy Dom/Little Boy), MD/LG (Mommy Dom/Little Girl), or MD/LB (Mommy Dom/Little Boy). However, these words are less frequent because the most prevalent relationship is between a Daddy Dom and a Little Girl.
What is a Daddy Dom?
This phrase is used in both the BDSM and the DDLG communities. In a Dom/sub relationship, the Dominant partner is known as Daddy Dom. In the relationship, Daddy is in charge. He also controls or tends for the little girl, his submissive partner. The Little is both dominated and disciplined by Daddy. Giving punishments and rewards is part of discipline.
Daddy Doms enjoy the gratification of having someone rely on them and depend on them to “solve it” when things become challenging. Littles continuously seek their Daddy’s praise and attention and will go to great lengths to please them. When his baby girl refuses to obey rules, Daddy Dom enjoys the satisfaction of spanking her in any way he wants (and she has consented to). She will also go to him for her sexual desires because he can best satisfy her.
What is a Little?
Little enjoys pretending to be younger than she actually is. Little is at her most subservient, fragile, and occasionally bratty when she is in the role/headspace. The Little age range is usually between 2 and 8 years old. It’s an excellent method for littles to get away from their responsibilities and relieve tension.
What makes Daddy happy, makes the little comfortable, and vice versa. He’ll make her feel perpetually young and lovely, and he’ll pamper and adore her. Subs who chose this relationship are typically very delicate at times, and having a caring, fatherly figure in their life is very comforting. Similarly, being told they’re a “sweet girl” makes sub immensely happy. And knowing they’re making their Daddy joyful by following the DDlg rules brings them a lot of comforts.
What is age play?
Age-play is a type of roleplaying in which one acts or treats another as if he were a different age. Age playing is the Dom acting as if the sub is a certain age, usually younger, ranging from toddler to teenager. As a result, the sub treats their Dom as if he were their Daddy. He assumes the paternal role of defender and caregiver, and when necessary, he imposes discipline and training. The sub becomes his “little” and is emotionally, physically, sexually, and sometimes financially dependent. Age players are not pedophiles. In most cases, pedophilia is defined as a feeling involving sexual behaviors toward minors. A submissive is not a child but rather a consenting adult performing in the role of a child. Both age playing and DDLG provide tremendous satisfaction for individuals involved.
DDLG rules, little space, activities, rewards, punishments and aftercare.
DD/LG focuses on being pleased and dreading rejection. Pats on the back of the head and kisses on the forehead are essential. Spankings are frequently necessary. Keeping that ‘dad knows everything’ mindset should help to improve an already extremely intimate bond. The following are some good rules for “littles”:
- Always refer to Daddy Dom as Daddy / Papi, Commander, etc.
- Daddy will choose your clothes, and you must request them while trying on clothes. But, you can offer suggestions.
- Eat with cute plastic dishes and cutlery.
- Greet your Daddy with a hug, kiss, and a colorful picture when he returns home.
- Believe in Daddy’s decision. Daddy always knows what is best for his baby girl.
- Accept all punishments with love.
- Don’t tie your own shoes or put on your own seatbelt when you’re with Daddy. So, allow him to do it.
- No drinking or smoking is allowed.
- There will be no cursing or arguing with your Daddy.
- Sit only in the backseat of the car.
- No showers, only bubble baths
- Suck on your pacifier anytime you use a computer or watch television.
- Wear diapers to bed.
- You must be courteous and polite.
- Bedtime is 10:00 p.m. If Daddy orders you to go to bed earlier, you must comply.
- A good baby girl always says ‘Thank you and ‘Please.’
- When crossing the street, hold Daddy’s hand.
- If you’re upset over something, talk to Daddy about it.
- You must request to touch your princess parts and also ask to cum.
- Take your teddy bear to bed with you.
- Princess is not going to be a brat. (Of course, she will!)
What is “Little space”?
Little space is a word used to describe an age- regressor’s headspace or “state of mind” that makes them feel more child-like, or “little.” It’s the “feeling” created by a submissive when playing and exploring their “little” side.
Often, the dominant caregiver assists the little in reaching this state of mind. Little space helps the age regressor in reverting from their normal adult lifestyle of worries and pressures to a more joyful, problem-free, and child-like state of being! As a result, age play is incredibly soothing and caring, especially for littles who have a lot of everyday worries or who have high-demanding professions or jobs.
These are some things you can perform together regularly or as a reward system (or both!). Here are some recommendations for age-appropriate activities that will assist a sub in entering little space more efficiently:
- Bake some cookies together.
- Take a bubbly bath.
- Work on an activity book.
- Make a pigtail and brush your hair.
- Play games together.
- Try DIY or craftwork together.
- Watch cartoons.
- Playing with wax.
- Draw all-around using chalk.
- Pet play.
- Read a bedtime story.
- Take little with you on a shopping trip.
- Play with dolls and stuffed animals.
- Make amusing videos.
- Swimming together.
You’re only limited by your imagination when it comes to enjoyable activities in a DD/LG relationship! There are no hard-and-fast “rules” on what you can and cannot do – whatever helps the “little” go into “little space,” and age regression is all that matters! Play on as long as you’re not harming anyone or forcing anyone to your kink in obvious ways!
DDLG rewards and punishments
Daddy decides on all rewards and punishments. He might spoil his little with new toys, books, a new outfit, a dinner date, or a vacation to a fun location.
For punishments, he could spank his little, have her write-in lines, or even control her orgasms (if sex is something they do). Many people who participate in age play enjoy punishment and humiliation. Above all, punishment causes DDLG to become kinkier.
Aftercare for DDLG
Aftercare is the BDSM phrase for providing emotional and physical support to your partner after the play is ended. The goal of aftercare is to assist you and your partner in recovering from an intense BDSM play or sex session.
If your DDLG play is enjoyable or soothing, you may not perceive the need for aftercare; yet, I strongly advise you to explore DDLG aftercare. Aftercare is beneficial since it assists you in reintegrating into the real world. It is a unique ritual for concluding the play and can make the entire experience far more gratifying. It’s best to do something mature that will ease you back into real life, such as drinking a cup of tea, changing into an adult dress, and discussing. Cuddling is a common technique to conclude aftercare.
Finally, it is always vital to have a DDLG debrief, which is a time to address what you liked, didn’t like, and how you can strengthen your play so that your next time is even better and more fun. Debriefing is essential if you attempt anything new, such as intense punishment, so you know if it’s something you both want to pursue further.
Why do we practice Voodoo?
The most straightforward approach to spice up your sex life is incorporating age play into your relationship. Amazingly, delving deeper into the worlds of sexual play fosters closeness and connection.
Secondly, people yearn for variety. We are always looking for fresh ways to spice up our sex lives. If you do the same things over and over again, you’re merely setting yourself up for boredom. Every day of the week. When a relationship lacks variety, desire fades, and people may seek their wants outside of the relationship or settle for porn. Kinks allow you to shut down your intellect, feel more humiliated, and enjoy greater pleasure. Pain and pleasure are awe-inspiringly magical.
Thirdly, people may practice DD/LG because it provides comfort and care. I can’t emphasize the bodily sense of comfort, protection, and pleasure with age play. It is worthy to note that the pleasure obtained from comfort and care can be an aim in itself or be included in sexual encounters. Daddies or caregivers can draw out deep emotion during play on the foundation of trust. Littles can relinquish control, but they believe they require severe care work and emotional labor from their partners in exchange.
Furthermore, it feels incredible to surrender and have someone else worry about you, take care of your mouth and body, make all of your decisions, and do all of your thinking for you. How lovely it is to be pampered by kind hands, relaxing sounds, undivided attention, and good intentions!
How can I get started with DDLG?
You may ask some questions to obtain a deeper understanding of how you feel about your choices. A thorough discussion of the subject might assist you in grasping your expectations as well as the protocol. These are some excellent initial questions to ask (mainly to Littles)
- What picture do you have of your perfect Daddy Dom?
- Do you want to go all in on the play, or do you prefer to play out aspects of it, such as sucking on a pacifier or wearing age-play clothing?
- Do you wish to combine romance and sex?
- Will you surrender to your Daddy Dom?
- Will you behave yourself or become a brat?
- Do you want to play in front of people?
- Is there a setting that causes you to enter Little Space?
Make a list of the names you’ll be utilizing. For example, Daddy Dom should be addressed as “Daddy, Papi, master, Sir, and so on.” On the other hand, Little girl would be addressed as “Princess, Bunny, Cutie, Kitty, Baby Girl, Angel, and so on.” Establish some basic guidelines. Discuss and organize some activities you’ll undertake together. It is also critical to establish your incentives and penalties.
The best DDLG communities and forums
Here are some suggestions if you’re looking for littles or Daddies to play with. Reddit is home to the best online community. There are several DDLG Facebook groups, but FB steadily disables them since they do not accept sexual content.
DDLG confess subreddit: This is a forum for Daddys and littles to rant and offer advice on any and all issues. It has more than 7.1k membership. It’s the best community, in my opinion, if you want to have a discussion and get your questions answered.
DDLG subreddit: With over 15.5k users, this 18+ subreddit is dedicated to DD/LG and BDSM communities folks. Caregivers, littles, switches, and anyone else interested are welcome to share photos and videos, initiate conversations, and make some new friends!
Age playing subreddit: A community dedicated to age play/roleplaying, dubbed DD/LG: Daddy Dom, Little Girl or Big Brother, Little Sister, and so on, with over 20.8k membership.
Little space subreddit: A forum for littles, middles, caretakers, and anybody interested in the dynamics and lifestyles of CGL, DDLG, or ABDL. It has 30.6k membership and is the largest DDLG group on the internet (excluding BDSM…).
DDLG Forum: With over 44k membership, the largest non-Reddit DDLG community. The sections that are the most active are:
Little Space – a secure environment in which all littles can communicate and interact.
Personals – a place to look for your perfect someone if you don’t already have one.
DDLG discussion – a forum for discussing DDLG and similar topics.
FetLife: It’s also a fantastic place to look for like-minded people.
In addition to these communities and forums, the following sites offer real-time chat rooms:
These are fantastic communities where you can chat with like-minded people, ask questions, and get some excellent quotes, clothing ideas, and so on.
How common is DDLG?
When you first learn about DDLG, you may have never heard of it before. However, these partnerships are more common than most of us realize, and as time passes, more and more people are learning to explore and enjoy these distinct settings. DDLG is popular among many individuals! It’s not unexpected given the activities that many of us like performing in our leisure time. Many of us collect plush animals, play video games, and even love watching children’s cartoons and movies. These items provide us with a window into our childhood, something we often lose as we get older.
The primary distinction is that DDLG is significantly more dynamic and intense. It’s also more sociable since instead of keeping our youthful delights to ourselves, we share them with a partner who gets to enjoy them as our parents once did. Even if it is becoming more prevalent, some people find it difficult to accept the idea of acting like a child or parent. Many DDLG couples are shunned by others, including their friends and family. This roleplay is frequently held behind closed doors and not discussed in public. This gives the impression that it’s not very prevalent and that few people do it.
Power dynamics in DDLG relationship
Daddy Dom is the dominant one in most DDLG relationships, while the little girl is the submissive one. On the other hand, age-play is not gender-specific, and it can be played between a mummy and a little boy, or between people of the same sex, with a caretaker and a little.
Incest, pedophilia, or sex with minors are not included in DDLG, and sex is not necessary. Every relationship is unique, ranging from vanilla to extreme.
Does DD/LG have to be sexual?
Most people wonder if the DD/LG partner must be sexual in a specific way. It may seem strange to ask, given that nearly all BDSM relationships are sexual in nature. This is because those relationships seem to garner more public attention, so you’ll hear a lot more about them. Numerous couples enjoy several caring relationships without being sexually involved or simply keeping their sex lives apart from their DD/LG lives. It’s pretty much up to you as long as there are two consenting adults.
Related DDLG acronyms and definitions you should know.
ABDL: Adult Baby / Diaper Lover. The dynamic is the same as DDLG, except ABDL play always begins when the diaper is on.
CGL stands for Caregiver/Little. It is also the same thing as DDLG. Therefore, a CG can be anyone who takes on a dominant role. Dominatrix or Daddy Dom (mommy domme).
Little Space: refers to the mindset that Little enters when she feels and behaves younger than she is. It could include both Daddy Dom and Little Girl or simply be the Little. “Entering the little place” entails sliding into a childish attitude.
Daddy Dom: Daddy Dom is a word we use in both the BDSM and DDLG communities. Daddy Dom is the dominant figure in the Little girl’s life. Dom dominates as well as disciplines the Little.
Little: Little is the person who regresses in age and takes on the role of a child.
D&S: D&S stands for Dominant and Submissive. These are the most often used terms in the BDSM world. The dominant partner is generally referred to as “Dom,” while the submissive is usually “Sub.”
Switch: A switch is a term that describes someone who enjoys changing positions and derives pleasure from being a part of both roles. A switch might be dominant at times and submissive at others.
How do I incorporate age play into my life as a newbie?
There will be some recommendations for making age play with Daddy Dom and tiny girl more enjoyable. The most effective strategy to incorporate age play is to:
Do some research.
Before bringing up DDLG with a partner, spend some time researching it yourself. You should conduct some study, visit forums and blogs, view kinky ethical porn, take quizzes, read DDLG erotica, and employ fantasy while masturbating.
Dare to have a conversation with your partner.
Discuss your new fantasies with your lover. First, explain how your interest in this desire does not indicate your disinterest in your existing sexual relationship. You’d like to explore this with them to expand and strengthen your sexual and love relationship. It is critical to explain that this would be an excellent complement to an already pleasurable sexual life. Help them realize the unique charms and intrigue you have for DDLG, which you should have gleaned from your solo play.
Set the rules, rewards, and punishments.
If you and your partner are on the same path about DDLG, the next step is to establish ground rules. You must discuss it with your partner. Littles appreciate specific outlines and boundaries. As a result, make sure you give this stage the attention it deserves.
Choose a name.
There are many interesting names to use in DDLG play, and you don’t have to limit yourself to Daddy and little. Have some fun coming up with ones that will genuinely get your loins tingling.
The moment you’ve been waiting for has arrived: you can begin playing! In practice, DDLG has a wide range of outcomes. Investigate your particular turn-ons and determine what works best for you both. You might wish to use naughty language during sex, read fairytales, dress up all cute and little, use pacifiers, do some role play, and engage in a couple of spankings; the DDLG world is your playground. Have fun with it and spend time together experimenting and exploring your turn-ons.
Keep it safe.
As with any form of BDSM play, it’s essential to keep things risk-aware, safe, and joyfully consensual. Kink is built on the principles of safety, communication, responsibilities, and aftercare. Aftercare is especially crucial for littles; they require lots of love and petting after play, especially if it is intense and/or involves impact. Good aftercare equals joyful and stable littles.
Age play is a terrific way to combine infantile purity with naughty sexual exploration. Don’t heed to those who claim that age-playing is wrong. The DDLG way of life can also serve as the foundation for a good BDSM relationship, bringing even greater enjoyment to both Doms and Subs. It can be portrayed as a scenario or as a way of life 24 hours a day, seven days a week. It is entirely up to you and your partner how you go about it. The most crucial aspect is to have a good time.
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Do you identify as a Daddy Dom or a little girl? What are your thoughts on the DDLG rules and age play? Please leave a comment in the comments section.