Erotic humiliation is consensual psychological humiliation that can produce erotic excitement or sexual arousal. Basically, it is arousal by being humiliated. Humiliation kink is a form of BDSM or another sexual role play. This play can also include Verbal and Physical humiliation. Have you ever wondered how humiliation play affects the mind?
If you want to find out, keep on reading our post. We will explain how erotic humiliation affects the mind, stress levels, and pleasure.
Erotic Humiliation is a Source of Sexual Stimuli
In erotic humiliation, some people assume the role of the Dominant, and others prefer to be the object or submissive. The reception of humiliation by the Dominant offers sexual arousal or relief for the submissive. Contrary to popular belief, many people who enjoy humiliation are actually high-powered, intelligent people in their daily life. They feel a sense of relief, release, and relaxation by no longer being expected to be in a position of power and instead of getting to surrender to the Dominant.
Erotic humiliation fetishes discover sexual excitement or arousal via verbal or physical humiliation. To know what verbal and physical humiliation encompasses, here’s a brief introduction of both terms.
Erotic humiliation fetishes are the most popular among submissives. Dominant excites the submissive through verbal humiliation. Verbal deprecation is a consensual psychological humiliation that creates a rise in excitement for both parties participating. This form of humiliation requires a safe word as it falls under the BDSM umbrella.
Often, but not always, sexual stimulation is the result of verbal humiliation. Two people’s accumulated power could lead to an asymmetrical power dynamic. They can indulge in humiliation play as a Master/slave relationship, a Top/bottom dynamic, or a Dominant/submissive relationship.
Verbal humiliation may include words like slut or whore, including teasing, torment, or embarrassment. Another form of verbal humiliation is giving or not permitting the sub to go to the bathroom or eat. There are many different kinds of humiliating scenarios you can do. For example, you could put the sub in a scenario where they behave like pets or a slave.
How Does Verbal Humiliation Triggers Anticipation and Excitement?
Humiliation can stimulate the same brain area that functions as a reminder of social rewards. Verbal humiliation in a scene ignites something exciting in the mind because it activates the brain to engage in a reward system.
Many people found talking during sex, especially “talking dirty,” to be “extremely enjoyable.”
In some BDSM circles, sexual humiliation is a lifestyle. Role-playing is also a form of humiliation, and it provides a perfect setting for your scene with language. The prospect of being out of your head while you orgasm is very alluring for some people. It is more fantastic, especially when it’s mixed with another fantasy or fetish.
Some BDSM couples engage in physical humiliation as a type of erotic humiliation. Dominant partner does so by the use of physical force, which helps them to control their submissive. Many BDSM kinksters participate in activities that include degrading the body, restricting movements, or manipulating the body.
Other forms of bodily humiliation include ejaculating, urinating on the submissive’s body, whipping, or cutting the submissive off from their privacy. Forcing a submissive to engage in degrading or humiliating acts may be part of a dominant partner’s repertoire. Submissive may adhere to a dress code that is both gender-specific and restrictive, such as cross-dressing or only wearing lingerie.
If the Dominant person emphasizes their status over their submissive “pet,” it could include physical and psychological degradation.
The use of physical and verbal humiliation is in conjunction with each other. To ensure that physical humiliation does not cause distress, everyone must know expectations and boundaries. A safe word can protect you from overzealous or excessive physical violence.
Here is our guide for using a safe word in BDSM.
The Gratification of Humiliation Kink can Reduce Stress
In erotic humiliation, both parties may feel sexual arousal in participating in degradation games. The humiliation activities create a build-up of foreplay, which leads to relief and release in sex, reducing stress levels and even alleviating feelings of shame.
It is crucial to play erotic humiliation with a trusted intimate partner. It helps to maintain a healthy outlet in any relationship. Because the submissive partner is vulnerable to the Dominant partner’s demands, it is the Dominant partner’s responsibility to be mindful and to establish balanced BDSM dynamics.
Aftercare for Humiliation
The experience of humiliation is relative, and it depends on the context. What may be humiliating to one person is not to another. The specific sensations obtained from experience are what erotic fetishes are looking for, regardless of the activity itself. It can be pleasing, soothing, comforting for one, or it might be shameful for the other. You must know the dynamics you will face in erotic humiliation play and how this may or may not mirror what goes on outside of the BDSM scene in the relationship.
If you call your submissive useless, slut, or whore while you act as the Dominant, you will need to get in touch with your partner afterward. It is essential in aftercare to reaffirm the caring feelings you have for them. You help them rebuild both physical and mental health by doing so. Maintaining a healthy relationship and participating in kink that acts as stress reduction can be difficult if aftercare is not a priority.
The Bottom Line
While humiliation play and sex can be an enjoyable experience, it can also be emotionally exhausting. We need to ensure that everyone leaves the experience feeling optimistic about themselves.
Despite the prevalence of erotic humiliation in BDSM and other sexual role play, there is little research. In contrast, humiliation play can lead to some emotional or psychological distress for one or both parties if done incorrectly. But if you do it right, erotic humiliation fetishes are means of erotic arousal and pleasure that help alleviate stress.
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