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Giving up Control: 4 Emotional Rewards of Chastity Play – Femdom Chastity Blog

A black leather chastity belt on a map.

If you’ve ever seen pictures of chastity belts and cages, your quick sojourn on incognito probably left you with more questions than answers. Do people really willingly encase their private parts in leather or metal? The truth is, just like any other kink, chastity might be more complex than it seems at first.

You might know the term chastity better for its connection to religion or spirituality. You might be thinking of a monk sworn to celibacy or of saving oneself for marriage. Still, even then, commitment takes center stage in the theme.

What is chastity? Is it BDSM?

As a sex term, chastity refers to being denied permission or the means to orgasm, masturbate, or sometimes any access to sex, period — including watching porn. Categorically, it falls somewhere under erotic sexual denial and BDSM. However, chastity is as much a thrilling sex act you can try as it is a hardcore lifestyle some people actively pursue. Some fetishists choose to be locked up – by their partners, designated keyholders, or alone – for days, weeks, or even months on end.

If you’re looking for something casual to try, chastity play is not for you. There’s a lot to consider when it comes to wearing chastity devices, and you might even need training. For example, some devices can make erections physically painful. It might even take a while before you find a comfortable device you can hide under clothes. You might wonder if chastity is worth all of that preparation. For many, their answers move well past sexual gratification into something else entirely.

1. It forces relationships to be less about sex.

For some, being deprived of sex or even masturbation helped them realize how much of the interactions in their relationships led up to or were influenced by sex. The new perspective forced them to communicate their needs better and value affection and intimacy outside of rewarding or having sex.

Couple showing affection
Couple showing affection

2. It changes what sex means, when you do have it.

When sex does happen — and it does happen, even while you’re locked up — sex shifts away from your personal satisfaction towards your partner’s pleasure, or the fact that your partner is keeping pleasure from you. For many, the feeling of not being in control and being of service is immensely gratifying by itself. In turn, release, when finally granted, becomes all the more powerful.

3. It can free you from your libido.

Many people who engage in chastity play do it to explore their limits or better practice self-control. It might sound like an extreme way to fight addiction to porn or masturbation, but some do account that chastity devices help them stay focused. On the flip side are people who enjoy the constant buzz of sexual arousal and the idea that they have to function anyway despite being denied relief.

4. Finally, chastity is an exercise in control and Trust.

When power dynamics are involved, chastity can be the ultimate act of submission. Whether you like it or not, you are giving up control. This is why chastity play cannot be casual — you have to trust that your keyholder has your best interests in mind and will take care of you when you need it.

Chastity brings couple closer
Chastity brings couple closer

If you think chastity could be your kink, make sure you do your research and always play safely and comfortably. You can head over to FOXXXY for some bondage gear and chastity devices you can work your way up to. Or sign up on Foxtail to share your experiences!

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