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How to Talk With Your Partner About Sex Toys

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Introducing sex toys into partnered sex can open up entirely new realms of pleasure for all parties involved.

Toys can do things that our bodies cannot, such as pulse and vibrate.
Many people can benefit from these novel sensations to have more consistent and frequent — or complex and intense — orgasmic experiences. And the sheer variety of experiences available can assist couples in keeping their sex varied and exciting, which certainly aids in the maintenance of desire in long-term relationships.

It’s an exciting time as sex toys in the bedroom is becoming more normalized. Here’s a few ways to talk to your partner about adding toys to your sexy time.😉

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How to Talk With Your Partner About Sex Toys

For some people, talking about sex toys, or even sex in general, is a squirm-worthy conversation, which is understandable. We, as a society, are often conditioned to consider such topics “naughty” or “dirty,” but sexuality should be an easy and regular topic in your relationship.

Begin the conversation when emotions (and hormones) aren’t running high. Pick a time when you and your partner are both relaxed and having a good time. It might seem like the perfect idea to start the conversation while in bed, but experts warn against this.

Talking about sex toys immediately before or after hooking up can make your partner feel inadequate and lead to feelings of intimidation. Give it some time!

Frame the Conversation Appropriately

Talking about sex toys can make some people feel like what they are doing for their partner isn’t enough. To avoid such feelings, it is crucial to frame your conversation appropriately.

For example, telling your partner you want to incorporate a vibrator into your bedroom play can quickly make it feel like your partner isn’t doing the job enough. Instead, you’ll want to suggest using toys as an enhancement to an already mind-blowing experience. Much better, right?

Tell your partner one thing you really love that they do to you in the bedroom, then suggest a toy that can enhance that feeling. Our store offers various sex toys that you can choose from, check it out!

Take Matters Into Your Own Hands

Sex toys come in all shapes and sizes. How can you know what kind you want? Well, the only way to know what you like is to try some out.

If you are new to the idea of using toys, it is suggested to choose beginner’s toys. You can also introduce beginner toys into your love-making gradually, starting with a small vibrator, like a Powerful Waterproof Wand Vibrator or a Nipple Sucking Stimulator, and graduating to larger or more sophisticated toys depending on how it goes.

Experts suggest starting with small vibrators or fun lubes, like Mizzzee Golden Lubricant, because they are less intimidating. It can be the easiest way to get a conversation rolling on the idea, as well.

Keep the Lines of Communication Open

Everyone has their limit for sexual stimulation, which is the same principle for using sex toys. Once you’ve incorporated toys into your repertoire, keep the lines of communication open.

Ask your partner if they have any fantasies they haven’t fulfilled. Once you’ve had the initial conversation, it will be easier to talk about each other’s limits and whether or not you are interested in upgrading toys.

Remember to have any follow-up conversations when you are both relaxed and not amid a sexual situation.

The Bottom Line

We know that sex toys can be a fun and enriching part of your sex life, but it is essential to discuss your preferences with your partner before heading into the bedroom. These tips can help you start that dialogue and, hopefully, lead to a more enriching sex life for both you and your partner!

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