If you’ve never been to a sex party before, you may assume it’s full of undressed strangers rolling about with no regard for any rules or restrictions. That’s where you’re mistaken. Sex parties definitely have rules for everyone to have a good time.
It’s crucial to recognize which actions are acceptable and not in an event where so many standard rules don’t apply. Understanding and sticking to the rules will make your fellow partygoers feel at ease with you and allow them to enjoy themselves. So let’s talk about some DOs and DON’Ts before diving into your very first sex party.
DOs and DON’Ts in a Sex Party
DO: Know What type of Party you’re Attending.
The sex-positive community (people who accept sex as a good thing) is divided into various branches, each of which has its own events. Some are more concerned with sex, while others are more interested in social connection. Singles are catered to by some, while couples and their visitors are catered to by others. So, find out whether it’s a swinger sex party, a kink munch, a swap party, or a cuddle puddle, etc. Familiarize yourself with the guidelines before going or inquire about them when you arrive. Then stick to them.
DON’T: Don’t Forget to Set Your Boundaries.
This one’s really important at a sex party. Setting boundaries and writing them down or making a mental list allows you to define what’s okay and what’s not accurately. You definitely won’t be flashing a piece of paper at possible sexual partners, but noting things down is a good approach to figure out what you are and aren’t comfortable with before feeling obligated to agree to something you don’t really want to do.
DO: Put On Your Sexiest Clothes
Know the dress code. Again, you can ask about it and then follow suit. Wear something comfortable, whether it’s a sarong, a loose dress, a fitted jacket, or a rubber corset. However, whatever you wear, make sure it’s clean and comfy. You can dress in something kinky. It’s still highly recommended!
Always brush your teeth and take a shower before going out. Carry whatever you’d normally use to shave before going on a first date. You’re putting yourself out there, so bring your best self.
DON’T: Don’t Forget That it’s a Party.
You’re not in a brothel. Just because you showed up doesn’t automatically mean that you are entitled to sex, not even if you paid a high cover price and travelled a long distance. Everybody there is a guest just like you. They are, above all, humans. It would be best if you treated everybody with respect. And if you don’t get any action, don’t make it a big deal, it’s a party. There’s always going to be another one.
DO: Be Prepared
Condoms are provided at most parties. There are even lubes, towels, and wet wipes in some. However, arriving at a party where you expect to have sex with strangers and not having a dental dam or a single condom is a bit of a turnoff. And it goes without saying that it’s always better to be safe than sorry.
DON’T: Don’t Get wasted.
Always ask someone’s permission before touching them. Slapping some stranger’s butt in a club seems hot in movies, but it’s not cool in real life. Always ask first, whether it’s a single person or a group. If this is your first time, it may be beneficial to rehearse some lines beforehand.
DO: Ask for consent. ALWAYS!
Always ask first, even if you’ve played before.
Don’t be concerned about being “smooth.”? Everyone is aware as to why you’re there. Be straightforward and kind. Also, keep in mind that everyone has the right to cancel their permission at any moment.
DON’T: Be afraid to say “no.”
Attending a sex party doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to have sex; you may watch, but only if it’s allowed. It also doesn’t imply that you have to talk to everyone who comes up to you. Smile ?—it helps to take the sting out of the words—but be straightforward and assertive when someone attempts several times, and make sure that they get that no means no. In most cases, people aren’t going to continue pushing.
DO: Be friendly by breaking the ice.
You don’t have to talk to everyone you meet, but an approachable demeanour will certainly draw people to you and relieve you of the burden of initiating conversations. Having a nice attitude and being open to possibilities can create a better experience. If you’re confused about anything, ask questions and admit that you’re new to the situation. Everyone has to start somewhere, right? You’ll almost certainly discover that the other guests will be more sensitive to your situation if you speak up.
DON’T: Be Entitled.
Make sure you don’t leave any mess behind. Don’t take up too much space in the restroom. Don’t take photos or videos of anybody. Keep your observations to yourself. And if anything doesn’t seem right, tell the host immediately. This is not your party be a courteous guest.
DO: Carry Sex Toys.
We are living in modern times. This means that if someone invites you to a sex party, make sure you have sex vibrators with you (if that’s your thing). Here’s the thing: sex toys in the bedroom can be hot. If it makes you excited at home, bring it out. Kink toys can be a great addition to such an occasion. Some people may share their toys with you, but don’t count on them for hygiene’s sake. Stock up on low cost kinky toys at Foxxxy.
Keep these 10 do’s and don’ts top of mind, and you’ll do great. Sex parties are a lot of fun! Concentrate on people rather than sex, and you’ll have a blast. If you make a mistake, an apology is acceptable. Be open-minded and allow yourself to learn.
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