They say that spring is the horniest season because everything is blooming after the cold winter, and as humans, we tend to get a little frisky with the warmer weather. Summer also seems to see a lot of action, sweaty and sexy under the sun. If your libido skyrockets with the temperature, you are not alone! Summer heat can turn even the coolest among us into lusty lovers. There’s nothing worse than a long, hot, sticky night. Tossing and turning; almost too hot to even get off but desperate to get to sleep. Your hands wander between your legs. This summer, beat the heat with these five solo sex tips for a summer of self-love.
Sex Toys + Freezer = BLISS
Temperature play can be super sexy any time of the year. Popping your toys and lube into the freezer before you get down to business can give you some heat relief while providing a whole new range of sensations. For the best experience with solo sex, try freezing metal items like nipple clamps, butt plugs or dildos, and cooling glass or ceramic toys in cold water. Even silicone sex toys will benefit from 15 minutes or so in the freezer. In a pinch, an ice cube will provide loads of sensation (while it lasts). Extreme cold can be overwhelming and exciting for the nipples and genitals. A safety tip, throw down a towel first.
Take Advantage of the Heat
Did you know that temperature influences the ability to orgasm, as well as the intensity of orgasms? Hotter temps mean hotter, longer and more sensational O’s!!
Usually, warmer is better, but if you feel uncomfortably hot and restless, you might give up before the orgasm. No air conditioner? No problem. Set a bowl of ice in front of a fan, or use a clean spritzing bottle to add a cool mist to the air in front of the fan. Sit in front of the fan and open your legs, feeling the coolness on your forbidden heat. Play with spraying cool water on your body, getting all wet and warm. As mentioned above, you can even use the ice for solo sensation play! Make the most of the heat.
Go Hiking With a Fun Sex Toy
Make use of discreet and portable toys like vibrating butt plugs and panty vibes. Pop one in, pocket the remote control, and take yourself out for ice cream. That double scoop of mint chip will taste all the more wickedly delicious if you’re ordering it with a naughty secret in your pants. None will ever be the wiser … unless you lose control, but isn’t that part of the thrill? By the time you get home, you will be so primed for release you’ll be bursting at the seams!
Cool Showers, Anyone?
Cold showers have become the punchline for so many jokes about horniness and libido. They do help cool you down literally and figuratively. But cool, not cold, bath or shower is also a great way to get your sexy on when you’re alone and the weather is warm. Who needs a pool when you can find a comfortably cool water temperature and get dirty while you get clean?
Incorporate a water-safe vibe or butt plug, or put your suction-cup-base dildos to good use on the wall of the shower or the bottom of the tub. If you want to use lubricant, silicone will have the longest staying power, but it’s not compatible with silicone toys, so choose wisely. If in doubt, stick to water-based lubes. Oh, and one more suggestion: get a detachable showerhead.
Stock Your Fridge
Don’t forget: masturbation is a form of self-care. Feeling the reward for good self-care habits makes them easier to maintain over time. Our best solo sex tip for this summer, it to stock your fridge and freezer with treats to enjoy in your afterglow. Mini fro-yo bars or convenient frozen smoothie packs, even just some lemon water, and pre-washed and chilled fruit will round out any hot weather masturbation marathon. Even if you don’t need the incentive from positive reinforcement, hydration is crucial! Enjoy those summer fruits from the farmer’s market. Take the time to replenish yourself after you have lost precious bodily fluids.
Our Thoughts on Solo Sex
Making small preparations or accommodations for intimate self-care may seem excessive or over the top, but aren’t you worth the extra consideration? Life is short, so why not make the most of the small pleasures where we can. If that means planning for some “you time,” make an effort to pamper yourself. Take advantage of the summer libido and make some extra time for you and your orgasm.
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