Sex Party: Top 10 Dos and Don’ts To Remember

If you’ve never been to a sex party before, you may assume it’s full of undressed strangers rolling about with no regard for any rules or restrictions. That’s where you’re mistaken. Sex parties definitely have rules for everyone to have a good time.

It’s crucial to recognize which actions are acceptable and not in an event where so many standard rules don’t apply. Understanding and sticking to the rules will make your fellow partygoers feel at ease with you and allow them to enjoy themselves. So let’s talk about some DOs and DON’Ts before diving into your very first sex party.

DOs and DON’Ts in a Sex Party

DO: Know What type of Party you’re Attending.

The sex-positive community (people who accept sex as a good thing) is divided into various branches, each of which has its own events. Some are more concerned with sex, while others are more interested in social connection. Singles are catered to by some, while couples and their visitors are catered to by others. So, find out whether it’s a swinger sex party, a kink munch, a swap party, or a cuddle puddle, etc. Familiarize yourself with the guidelines before going or inquire about them when you arrive. Then stick to them.

DON’T: Don’t Forget to Set Your Boundaries.

This one’s really important at a sex party. Setting boundaries and writing them down or making a mental list allows you to define what’s okay and what’s not accurately. You definitely won’t be flashing a piece of paper at possible sexual partners, but noting things down is a good approach to figure out what you are and aren’t comfortable with before feeling obligated to agree to something you don’t really want to do.

DO: Put On Your Sexiest Clothes

Know the dress code.  Again, you can ask about it and then follow suit. Wear something comfortable, whether it’s a sarong, a loose dress, a fitted jacket, or a rubber corset. However, whatever you wear, make sure it’s clean and comfy. You can dress in something kinky. It’s still highly recommended!

Always brush your teeth and take a shower before going out. Carry whatever you’d normally use to shave before going on a first date. You’re putting yourself out there, so bring your best self.

DON’T: Don’t Forget That it’s a Party.

You’re not in a brothel. Just because you showed up doesn’t automatically mean that you are entitled to sex, not even if you paid a high cover price and travelled a long distance. Everybody there is a guest just like you. They are, above all, humans. It would be best if you treated everybody with respect. And if you don’t get any action, don’t make it a big deal, it’s a party. There’s always going to be another one.

DO: Be Prepared

Condoms are provided at most parties. There are even lubes, towels, and wet wipes in some. However, arriving at a party where you expect to have sex with strangers and not having a dental dam or a single condom is a bit of a turnoff. And it goes without saying that it’s always better to be safe than sorry.

DON’T: Don’t Get wasted.

Always ask someone’s permission before touching them. Slapping some stranger’s butt in a club seems hot in movies, but it’s not cool in real life. Always ask first, whether it’s a single person or a group. If this is your first time, it may be beneficial to rehearse some lines beforehand.

Always ask first, even if you’ve played before.

Don’t be concerned about being “smooth.”? Everyone is aware as to why you’re there. Be straightforward and kind. Also, keep in mind that everyone has the right to cancel their permission at any moment. 

DON’T: Be afraid to say “no.”

Attending a sex party doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to have sex; you may watch, but only if it’s allowed. It also doesn’t imply that you have to talk to everyone who comes up to you. Smile ?—it helps to take the sting out of the words—but be straightforward and assertive when someone attempts several times, and make sure that they get that no means no. In most cases, people aren’t going to continue pushing.

DO: Be friendly by breaking the ice.

You don’t have to talk to everyone you meet, but an approachable demeanour will certainly draw people to you and relieve you of the burden of initiating conversations. Having a nice attitude and being open to possibilities can create a better experience.  If you’re confused about anything, ask questions and admit that you’re new to the situation. Everyone has to start somewhere, right? You’ll almost certainly discover that the other guests will be more sensitive to your situation if you speak up.

DON’T: Be Entitled.

Make sure you don’t leave any mess behind. Don’t take up too much space in the restroom. Don’t take photos or videos of anybody. Keep your observations to yourself. And if anything doesn’t seem right, tell the host immediately. This is not your party be a courteous guest.

DO: Carry Sex Toys.

We are living in modern times. This means that if someone invites you to a sex party, make sure you have sex vibrators with you (if that’s your thing). Here’s the thing: sex toys in the bedroom can be hot. If it makes you excited at home, bring it out. Kink toys can be a great addition to such an occasion. Some people may share their toys with you, but don’t count on them for hygiene’s sake. Stock up on low cost kinky toys at Foxxxy.

Keep these 10 do’s and don’ts top of mind, and you’ll do great. Sex parties are a lot of fun! Concentrate on people rather than sex, and you’ll have a blast. If you make a mistake, an apology is acceptable. Be open-minded and allow yourself to learn.

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Swinging And Why It Is Exciting

Group sex has been practised for as long as humans have been sexing and is gaining more mainstream popularity in the 21st century. It is instrumental in connecting people with the same sexual desires. There are many reasons why swinging is a fun lifestyle choice. Couples try more open relationships to add adventure into their relationship, and couples who have lost their electricity might try to add more excitement and variety to their relationship. Swingers are just a fun and exciting group of people.

Couples or individuals may choose this lifestyle for its many benefits. It can be helpful to understand these benefits before deciding to get involved in the lifestyle. Swinging is not a new lifestyle. Many swingers have been together for decades or even longer. There are some advantages to dating couples and long-term swingers, and let me share those with you now. Swingers have been able to build solid and committed relationships because they work on these things. This lifestyle is a positive step forward in the direction of accepting one’s sexuality, human desires and create fulfilling relationships.

​​​Pros of Swinging​​

Let’s start with the pros of swinging. One advantage is that it allows the couple to enjoy the trust in their relationship and feel free. Swinging creates situations for couples to explore sexually with other couples, they are not bound by the usual rules of monogamy. This helps many people feel a sense of freedom and authenticity. In this day and age, many couples are no longer concerned with “owning” a person through typical monogamy. Instead, many happy couples are focused on honouring one another’s individuality within the union by participating in swinging and other sexual exploration.

Another advantage of swinging is that it allows for the exploration of attraction and sexuality. Many women married to men are interested in exploring their bi-curious fantasies after years of marriage with their husbands. The same can go for the husband as well!

Swinging is also just plain fun Swinger parties and lifestyle events are full of interesting people from all walks of life. You might be surprised who’s into the lifestyle once you begin to make friends in the community. There is no one stereotype of swinger. Swinger parties are also an opportunity for creative expression. Many parties are themed giving people a chance to dress up in sexy lingerie or the slutty costumes of their choice. No need to wait for Halloween!!

Cons of Swinging

Now, let’s talk about the cons of swinging. Swingers can’t just jump into it without giving it much thought. The only potential con for some people is that it takes time and effort between you and your partner to be involved in the swinger lifestyle. Swingers need to have a genuine desire to be in an open relationship paired with a commitment to effective communication in the relationship. It is common for feelings of jealousy to arise at first and to feel some different strange emotions from seeing your partner play with others. You can start slow and just observe others as you get more comfortable with the idea. If the lifestyle is for you, you will find yourself fantasizing about it and becoming more aroused by the idea of exploring with others sexually.

Remember there are different ways to swing! Like all kink activities, swinging requires consent. So, you and your partner decide what the limits are and can change them as you go. For example, at first, you can decide to “soft-swap” = playing with others without penetration, focusing on kissing, caressing, fondling and touching. Then you can move to a full swap = full penetration. Some couples also enjoy exploring their bi-curiosity while the other partners watch.

People who decide to adopt this lifestyle often find that it is fun for it brings people together. It helps couples connect, and build even more intimacy than before.

Why Do Couple Love This Lifestyle?

People swing because they feel happiness and fulfilment sharing in sexual experiences with others. Swingers come in different variations. Some are exploring in casual relationships, while others have been in their relationship for decades. Many swingers feel a sense of freedom and truly being themselves when they are at swinger parties and hanging out with their community.

Now to make your swinger’s party even more fun, why not use sex toys? According to credible research, sex toys can enhance pleasure and even improve bladder control. Don’t be shy to bring your sex toys to the party!!

The Bottom Line

Now that you understand why people may or may not try swinging, hopefully, you now understand why swingers choose their alternative lifestyle. They understand the effort and energy the lifestyle requires, but also the rewards. In summary, the advantages are endless. You must be ready to make a lifestyle change and commit to growth if you are going to start swinging!

So whether it’s romance or fetish that excites you, one thing’s for sure- swinging will blow your mind! Meet swingers in your area by joining our sex-positive community here. Visit our blog and read more interesting kinky stuff. Good or bad, we would love to hear your thoughts.