Many people have heard of the term “Edgeplay.” It likely came up while reading a BDSM guide or discussing D/s with a friend. This word is like many kink words are charged with taboo energy. That stuff on edge should be left alone, right? The problem is, that’s what makes it so much fun!
In that case, let’s say you have a good understanding of what Edgeplay entails, but you are unsure where to begin. For all the adrenaline addicts, this one’s for you. If you are the type of person who gets bored of the familiar routines and looking for something new, then the exciting Edgeplay is for you!
Who Is Suitable for Edgeplay?
Please be aware that this is not suitable for the faint-hearted. Edgeplay can be a perfect combination of spice and danger in sex. This combo will bring you and your partner closer and step up your level of sexual intensity in a naughty, mischievous manner. How does it work? Edgeplay will get you as close to the bottom of the mind as possible, allowing you to experience things that few people are willing to see.
Edgeplay means taking a sexual encounter to the very edge of your psychological limits, an intense and erotic walk to the dark side.
Edges play Includes Three Primary Elements
Even those who know each other well can find something new in edgeplay. While you may believe you know everything about your partner, their personality may take a sudden turn once you have a knife at their throat and they are begging for mercy. For better or worse, when you peel away all the social layers, you will see a new side of your partner and yourself. This kind of play can help to increase your trust and intimacy because it allows each of you to uncover and share your darkest parts.
The first takes the form of a sexual role-play that incorporates violence, either physical or psychological. This part is also known as BDSM (“Bondage & Discipline, Domination & Submission, and Sado-Masochism”). Role-playing behavior can vary depending on who is playing, since to one person, something could be exciting, while for another, it might be plain and boring. However, certain fundamentals apply to all of these activities, including:
- Rough play
- Erotic Asphyxiation
- Fire Play
- Blood play (drawing and/or drinking blood)
The second element is to use sharp objects, such as knives, swords, or other cutting instruments to engage in this kind of Edgeplay. The goal isn’t to maim but it’s using sharp objects as a sensory tool. There are many techniques to take part in knife play while staying safe.
The third element is for boundary pushing which is unique to each person. You might know that someone has a fear of not being able to move. Edging might include making them believe they’ve been tied up. In impact play it could mean spanking them till they are are at the “edge” of screaming the safe word. Edges greatly depend on what you and your partner think are willing to try. The goal again isn’t to traumatize, it’s to get someone close to their limit.
There are physical benefits to practicing Edgeplay as well. The thrill and fear associated with such play release both norepinephrine and adrenaline during the gameplay and endorphins. Stress relievers and anti-depressants are on this list. When fears and excitement subside, the body releases large amounts of serotonin, dopamine, and vasopressin, creating a good feeling.
A Last Bit of Advice
Be aware that all of this must occur between two or more consenting adults since Edgeplay puts others in a position of potential harm called consensual non-consent. For these reasons, it’s critical to ensure effective communication, including using a prearranged safe word.
Couples in long-term relationships are constantly trying to convince themselves that things are still exciting in bed. Edgeplay can help to bring these feelings back! It prevents things from getting stale.
It is time to do your research if this piques your curiosity. Those with no experience should go to a workshop, look at instructional guides, and watch videos.
Before practicing this play, you should talk about this with your partner:
- Talk extensively about your intentions and fantasies
- Be methodical in your approach
- Calm yourself
Balancing the darkness and light, fun and fear for you and your partner, is an art. Edgeplay should be affirming and enjoyable for everyone, BDSM is all about freedom.
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